ian wrote on Dec 27
th, 2015 at 1:49pm:
Lots of people have horrific childhood stories, prison is full of people like that. Malignant narcissism is prevalent in our society. But there are just as many who take what they are given and make lemonade and end up with happy successful lives. Why on earth would you be celebrating Xmas with someone who made your life a misery? As adults we are empowered to make our own decisions, the first decision any adult should be making is not to surround themselves with people who deliberately attempt to inject venom into their lives and wish to see them fail. And if we dont make that decision then only ourselves to blame
quite true.. I am not saying any different..
but Grap and mothra ARE NOT IN PRISON....
they both seem as if they have moved on bruised but just fine.......
and those are the two people I was thinking about...
what I am saying is!
if you DO NOT wish to go through life dragging the past with you like some awful crucifixion cross.
then you must forgive them in your heart you must...
that sadly doesnt mean you forget...but it does mean you will leave it behind you where it belongs..whenever you can...
and yes we can find ways and means to live with each other..even at Xmas..... of course those who have the need to be forgiven must have changed their ways which isnt always the case if they ever wish to spend time with their now grown up children....
life isnt, and never will be easy...
but why carry misery and in a somecases pure evil around in your heart....
Lord Herbert wrote on Dec 27
th, 2015 at 2:05pm:
Sir Grappler Truth Teller OAM wrote on Dec 27
th, 2015 at 1:30pm:
We men are very finely attuned to the bullshit artists and their approach,
which women seem to think is flattering attention... while we do this ...

... and shake our heads in disgust and disbelief.
Amen to that.
personally I think most change
after the vows..
I mean lets face it.. half of us wouldnt catch a partner if we didnt put on a front before marriage...
women do tend to believe they have special POWERS.....who on earth would Marry Charlie Sheen... with his reputation....

.... because they all think i have the POWER to make him change...
Just an aside - saying I forgive my parents and certain of my siblings doesn't mean I want to spend time with them.