mothra wrote on Dec 26
th, 2015 at 10:14pm:
I like Grap alot but i certainly take strong objection to his gender politics.
I understand his gender politics. I am a male and have 3 sons. My wife would agree with much of what Grap gripes about.
I'm a little pissed(hic, cods you shoulda been here!) but let me try and relate something, nothing to do with violence per se, but a situation my son was put in as part of his prac in nursing. He was sent to Lismore High to give a sex ed talk, including rape, peer pressure etc. He turned up and was given a pre-written talk. He read it screwed it into a ball and binned it.
He gave his talk, not according as planned by I think the female school counsellor. On rape and consent he started out with the analogy of asking a girl home. You ask her if she wants a hot coffee, she agrees, yes. She has consented to drink your coffee. If you then return to find her asleep on the lounge do you then pour the hot coffee down her throat because, after all she said she wanted it? Class cracks up laughing. Yep, they can see the point.
It then turned to drinking and consent. It is rape after all if a woman is pissed and consents but then decides the next day she didn't want to. He told the room that was wrong and that the man and woman were equally able to consent or not. The school counsellor interrupted him and told him this was not true, that women who were pissed could not give informed consent as they were impaired. He asked her in front of the class, long story short, "so you are saying women are less capable and inferior?" Apparently her face dropped, she took two steps back and let him continue.
I talked to the lady he was under as she works as part of community nursing Wednesdays at the Winsome Hotel where I volunteer as I was afraid there may be some repercussion of tossing the script. Nope, rave revue, one of the best students sent there.
Anyway, the point is... Things are not equal, men are treated badly and are expected to cop it sweet, you do not fix a problem unless you address it's cause and men are only part of the problem not
the problem. You girls are not saints and need to carry your share.
Edit: And if you think I know nothing about domestic violence... I can tell you some stories. Grap has shared some of his.