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oceanz Gold Member Offline Auzgurl.. Posts: 3531 Gender:	Which one- Aug 28^th, 2007 at 8:52pm Which one does the most damage in a relationship? Lies Infidelity Imbalance of power Lack of sexual compatibility Family problems ie: inlaws etc
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Sprintcyclist Gold Member Offline OzPolitic Posts: 41796 Gender:	Re: Which one- Reply #1 - Aug 28^th, 2007 at 10:59pm The lack of sexual compatability. The first 2 may be a problem if they are known, an imbalance of power may be entirely accepted. A marriage is a new family, that comes before inlaws. They are secondary
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cautious connie Full Member Offline OzPolitic Posts: 215	Re: Which one- Reply #2 - Aug 29^th, 2007 at 7:21am I dont know- i agree they are all damaging. I would tend to think lies would be the worst because they mean you can't deal with a situation because you dont know what it is.
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Sprintcyclist Gold Member Offline OzPolitic Posts: 41796 Gender:	Re: Which one- Reply #3 - Aug 29^th, 2007 at 9:38am Connie, yes, only if the lie is known though. If the fib never comes to the surface ......... no damage done.
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cautious connie Full Member Offline OzPolitic Posts: 215	Re: Which one- Reply #4 - Aug 29^th, 2007 at 10:22am I disagree. A lie unknown still weighs on a relationship because it inhibits communication and knowledge between the partners.
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Sprintcyclist Gold Member Offline OzPolitic Posts: 41796 Gender:	Re: Which one- Reply #5 - Aug 29^th, 2007 at 1:04pm Oh, it's certainly not a good thing for a relationship. We are talking about serious deliberate lies here, not just forgetful or "did not bother to say". I much rather be withsomeone who had lied and was sexually compatible, than someone who had never lied but we slept in different beds.
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oceanz Gold Member Offline Auzgurl.. Posts: 3531 Gender:	Re: Which one- Reply #6 - Aug 29^th, 2007 at 2:41pm mmm lack of sexual compatability is a big one and my first choice. and infidelity the next for me I think...this one and lies go together.
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cautious connie Full Member Offline OzPolitic Posts: 215	Re: Which one- Reply #7 - Aug 29^th, 2007 at 7:58pm I suppose defining "damage" might help me answer the question too. You can have a long term stable relationship with someone whom you don't have a strong sexual compatability with. Is it as close as a relationship where there is sexual compatability- probably not, but life as a couple is not all sex.
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mantra Gold Member Offline ozpolitic.com Posts: 10750 Gender:	Re: Which one- Reply #8 - Aug 30^th, 2007 at 11:47am I agree too Oceans & Sprintcyclist. All can be forgiven if you are compatible physically - for a little while anyway.
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cautious connie wrote on Aug 29^th, 2007 at 7:58pm:

I suppose defining "damage" might help me answer the question too. You can have a long term stable relationship with someone whom you don't have a strong sexual compatability with. Is it as close as a relationship where there is sexual compatability- probably not, but life as a couple is not all sex.

well then that would be a very unsatisfactory sterile realtionship-- how sad.

A brother and sister can live together and not want sex- or an old couple perhaps-but normal couples do want sex- incompatibility would be a dealbreaker in most cases.

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