Speaking from a long term bitter experience, if she avoids physical contact for some time.
See a divorce lawyer.

Women use this as a weapon against us men.  If we lose our control, we lose big time.
They play the game well.

I would not recommend seeking solace in another womens arms till that relationship is "resolved."
Another woman would be avoiding the real situation and will worsen the situation.

ex-member DonaldTrump wrote on May 10^th, 2007 at 2:05am:



Donald ,

This question is subjective and depends on the circumstances within certain relationships I would imagine.


There would  be an issue that needs attention to be solved by both of you I would say.

Would it be fair if the guy went off and cheated on his girlfriend? Well only if the relationship has no value to the guy concerned-if his needs arent being met as part of an overall loving relationship, maybe its time he reassessed his wanting to be in the relationship.

Maybe the guy has unwittingly hurt his g/f-easily done as male and female are very different emotionally- she may feel she is undervalued for some reason and this can effect her loving feelings for her partner. If this is the case and she feel she is not is not being heard it will get worse and eventually may lead to a break up.That would be sad of course.

I think Donald communication is the key. There is very little that cant be solved by 2 pple sitting down and honestley letting theyre feelings be known to each other and working together to create a satisfactory outcome so both parties are happy with the outcome.

Females are always complaining that theyre men simply dont really listen and pay attention to problems within a relationship, they see this unwillingness to listen as sign that men dont care enough about them to work it out.And men hate to talk about problems on the other hand-so its a catch 22.


You didnt give much detail in your question, so I hope this helped a bit.

I wouldnt go and sleep with somone else unless youve already decided the relationship is over..
Because if she finds out issues of trust will remain for a very long time.

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That is so funny sprintcyclist.   

I've always thought it was the other way around - it's the male who complains louder and longer and their disappointments are never ending.

Okay... here's an example scenario:

The girl says to the guy... after weeks and weeks of dating, "I only want to have sex with 'someone I love,' and your not quite there yet, it takes time."

Now... in this situation... I think that the guy should be entitled to go off and cheat.  


Because I think sex is like a 'reward' for the hard earned efforts of the guy showering her with gifts... and I think refusal of sex is like a punch in the guys face, and will cause a failure in the relationship.


Nothing worse than going without sex.. knowing that you're in a relationship with someone. The girl is basically just on a power trip.


Like Billy Connelly once said... "Girls need to feel loved to have sex... but guys need sex to feel loved."

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and Donald, Billy Connolly was spot on.

maybe this girl sees you as having potential as a long term partner and is testing you, which is no good to you right now, of course ,as you need sex.Maybe you both see your coupling as having different outcomes.

She may be in it for the long haul, women can decide very early on if your 'right' or not, its instinctive.

A note to you, females dont subscribe to the veiw that if a guy spends money on her or not, neccessarly entiltes him to receive a payoff. It cause her to feel as though she is being paid for, and there is no loving intent behind this scenario.Its actually insulting to some women.

If a women is so devasteted by your sexiness and charm , a sexy ,wicked smile will do the trick and wont cost you a cent. It IS subjective as I said..

She is waiting for a depth of feeling to evolve as she obviously needs this to make her first 'encounter ' with you special and memorable. Trust her on this. It means she has a high regard for you and the resultant first sexual encounter wont be a disappointment, thats for sure, unless she is a virgin, in which case this would,nt be her fault.

Donald, you must like this girl for you to have spent money and time with her , but if Im wrong and you want a girl to be more in tune with your needs than her own, then you may have to find a girl who is more willing and who's standards are not as high. You are a  man you have needs ..find a girl more in tune with you ..

She will develop feelings for you that will result in intimacy, she knows this, but wants the time to be right.

Its depends on if YOU are willing to do the 'hard yards' and be patient. You know your limits.If after more time has lapsed and you have resolved nothing-she may be playing with you and you may need decide if you want to go on with it.


Good luck Donald, its a very frustrating situation and I hope it works out soon.

Cheers.

You hit modify instead of respond didn't you oceans? If you want I can make one of your other profiles the moderator instead. That way this won't happen and you will be just like any other member, but you will have to log out and log in under the other profile to do moderating stuff.

Donald, imho, by "seeing sex as a reward for the hard yards" the guy is putting the woman in complete control of the relationship.
prob, few good woman would be "warmed" by a man who sees things that way.


Last time I was looking for a woman in my life I did not "play by the reward" rules. 
The woman who expected men to shower them with gifts were unimpressed by me.
As i was by their obvious greed and shallowness.
Guess what, I didn't want another blood sucker in my life.
I am NOT ever going to "beg", "buy" or be in any way "manipulated" for loving.
Lovemaking for me is not a quid pro quo thing for me. it is entirely a mutual thing.
Those sort of women who were of that mindset would undoubtly find a man to put them on a pedistal, a bloke she would easily use.
Is that her "fault", or the fault of men that accept/encourage that thing.

Who cares, I don't accept it.

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What makes you think it's me I'm talking about? 


Nah.. yeah.. it's me.

The problem is... I have about two other girls that I'm very sure are after me, and I'm very sure they would have a quick fling with me if I snapped my fingers.

But... there's the moral dilemma to think about.

But man... I'm sooo tempted to go off and cheat though. This girl is heavily frustrating to be with. And I'm really starting to hate these kind of girls who 'only do it for love.'