Quote:Monocultures can alienate people by their rules and values. This could include things like eating habits, dress code, gender roles, marital customs, dating customs, socio-economic expectations and manners. Marital arrangements by parents, men being required to propose, women staying at home, the idea that "big boys don't cry" and the hijab are examples. The negative stigmas associated with not doing what the monoculture prescribes is what makes a monoculture undesirable.
Quote:I personally favour individual choice and that people do not ....
I did say that this was an inevitable aspect of the exclusive nature of cultures. A fraction of people who don't quite "fit in" (or make no effort to try to "fit in") are going to be alienated. I am not denying this; I am just saying that it isn't as bad as you are making it out to be, nor is it a good reason to attempt to impose some artificial system in its stead.
Quote:My dad, example, criticises the way I eat. My dad considers eating to be a social activity. I have to be "decent" or elegant in the way I choose to eat my food. I like eating food in a particular order and I don't believe it's my dad's business to tell me how to eat my lunch or dinner. He believes that people like watching the way I eat. My argument is that nobody cares. It's just food.
If nobody cares is your argument, why does your father care? The reasons why he would prefer you to consume your dinner in a decent manner are very sensible; one, you will be a much more effective member of society and thus have a higher chance of being successful if you adhere to proper tableside protocol, and secondly, elegance is
aesthetic. People prefer to see others eat their food properly with a knife and fork rather than stuff it into their mouths with the juices dripping down their chin because they cognitively associate the former behavior with cleanliness, and because it is far more pleasing to the eye.
Monocultures don't always just arbitrarily impose codes of etiquette and norms on people; there are underlying rationales for most norms. I say "I would like to be excused" when I need to go to the bathroom when I am eating with others, and not "I need to go take a big fat dump" because the latter more directly reminds others of fecal matter, which is unhygenic, unpleasant and foul smelling. Frankly, I don't know about you, but I would prefer a society in which people who announce their intentions to void their bowels with such vulgarity to not be particularly socially mobile. The solipstic behavior that you are describing is common of my generation which I assume you are a part; but just because certain elements of our generation embrace more lax or the complete abscence of previous social norms, does not mean that they themselves have not assumed certain (and in my view, awful) norms of their own, nor does it mean that the new behavior that they engage in has in any way been a positive change. Sharply dressed invididuals who take pride in their physical appearance have given way to negrified codes of dress like disgusting sagging pants where the underpants are visible and hairy armpits exposed by singlets stained with tomato sauce. Is this really a good thing? Most norms are in place because they promote overall social cohesion and are considered to be of net benefit to the society that internalizes them.
Your father is attempting to socialize you appropriately so that your chances of being accepted in society are maximised, and thus, your chance of being successful. A parent who would not do otherwise is not fit to assume the role. If only we all could be Chinese, no?
Quote:The punk, emo, goth and hippies were just an extreme example. I used to look down on such people. I don't have tattoos and nor do I have any of their weird hairstyles, but I understand why they chose to live, dress, act, talk and think that way. Living standards had increased to a level where the customs and manners associated with traditional cultures became unnecessary to most people. People became more individualistic. Social mobility increased. Western society offered people an opportunity to get rich and free themselves from the traditions of their local culture. You were no longer defined by your heritage or local customs. It was uncool to be defined by your heritage and local customs. People rebelled against it. Everybody who conformed was an idiot.
I didn't grow up in that generation, but I live with the consequences of that generation.
Yes, you are describing history fairly well, I just don't see why the commonly uttered liberal argument that an increase in living standards inevitably must result in the current social milleu which we are present. I would ascribe the breakdown of society more to effectively hostile Western intellectuals intent on deconstructing, inverting and subverting Western civilization for a variety of reasons.