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Sprintcyclist wrote on Aug 29
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UnSubRocky wrote on Aug 29
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Sprintcyclist wrote on Aug 28
th, 2024 at 12:09pm:
Hi Unsub,
I have found alcohol has never helped me resolve any trouble.
' ....... unless I break the habit. ...... ' - yes it is a habit.
I found many alternatives to drinking helped to give me better habits.
Herbal teas, gardening, weights, bridge, yoga, cycling.
Anything at all. Have at least 4 alternatives ready to call upon whenever you want.
Maybe jigsaw puzzles, sudoku, crosswords, reading .
Anything.
I was drunk yesterday. I am intoxicated today. I will be sober tomorrow.
I video log. I read. I play mobile phone games. I do resistance training -- which is one of the reasons I should quit alcohol. I am starting gardening next month.
Good luck, keep us updated on it
I have decided that father's day will be the final time I ever get drunk. But it will be on red wine. My team won tonight. I will celebrate on Sunday.
getting drunk or getting stoned is just a giant cope
it takes you away from source energy and it is a way to numb the pain of your existance
try getting up at 4 am and going for a walk in the park on the wet grass and admiring a tree
theres a definition for a successful day
you could go to a park and admire a tree and listen for bird noises and not feel the need to
1 pull out your phone within 10 seconds
2 start to self attack (looping on thoughts that WTF am i doing here)
3 feeling like you need to stop at maccas for fries and a coke on the way home
4 thinking about pot or grog
do it every day rocky to build the anterior cingulate area of the brain
the "willpower" part of your brain
train it like a swimmer does laps to train
over and over and over until the little grooves in your brain turn into deep ruts which you cannot steer out of
thats YOU now
YOU have achieved transformation
anything less is a band aid solution and the moment you get stressed, its straight back to the booze, the pot, the sugar, the phone scrolling and the durp state of the masses
I know i'm going to regret not ignoring this topic but bugger me sideways that's some load of ablelist horseshit.
No surprises. Absolutely everything you write is from the perspective of a person with little to no obstacles.
Captain Oblivious.
Well, you would be were it not for your more sinister undertones.
everyone has obstacles
an excellent book for you (not that you'd read it )
In The Obstacle Is The Way, the framework that Holiday offers is composed of three disciplines: perception, action and will.[5] As he explains this framework, Holiday supplements each section with historical anecdotes and figures from politics, commerce, sports, and history including Theodore Roosevelt, Demosthenes, John D Rockefeller, Amelia Earhart, Laura Ingalls Wilder, Ulysses S. Grant, Barack Obama, Steve Jobs, among others.[1][6][7]
"What blocks us is clear. Systemic: decaying institutions, rising unemployment, skyrocketing costs of education and technological disruption. Individual: too short, too old, too scared... How skilled are we at cataloging what holds us back!".[8]
Alter Your Perspective
"Fear is debilitating, distracting, tiring and often irrational... The task, as Pericles showed, is not to ignore fear, but to explain it away. Take what you're afraid of – when fear strikes you – and break it apart."[8]
"Remember: We choose how we'll look at things. We retain the ability to inject perspective into a situation. We can't change the obstacles themselves – that part of the equation is set – but the power of perspective can change how the obstacles appear. How we approach, view, and contextualize an obstacle, and what we tell ourselves it means, determines how daunting and trying it will be to overcome."[8]
"Is our perspective truly giving us perspective or is it what's actually causing the problem?" … What we can do is limit and expand our perspective to whatever will keep us calmest and most ready for the task at hand."[8]
Holiday divides perspective into two definitions: context and framing.
Context: how individuals see the specific situation or obstacle amidst the world, their lives and a bigger picture
Framing: how individuals personally evaluate and make sense of the situations they are presented with
Finding the Opportunity
Blitzkrieg Example:
"Its one thing to not be overwhelmed by obstacles, or discouraged or upset by them. This is something a few are able to do. But after you have controlled your emotions, and you can see objectively and stand steadily, the next step becomes possible: a mental flip, so you're not looking at the obstacle but the opportunity within it."[8]
"Its our preconceptions that are the problem. They tell us that things should or need to be a certain way, so when they're not, we naturally assume that we are at a disadvantage or that we'd be wasting our time trying to pursue an alternative course. When really, it's all fair game, and every situation is an opportunity for us to act."[8]
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