aquascoot wrote on Mar 23
rd, 2023 at 8:26pm:
people are either at the cause/stimulus (trump) or at the effect/response (matty fisk and gweg)
if you are at the effect, you have given away all your power to the person at the cause
as Stephen Covey points out in his book “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People”, there’s a lot going on between the stimulus and the response. The stimulus could be what that other person does, or something they say, or the tone of voice in which they say it, or the look on their face.
In order for it to register as a stimulus at all, your mind has to interpret it as something threatening, provoking or guilt inducing, probably by matching it to the memories of previous bad experiences that it might remind you of. You have to evaluate the incoming sensory information in the light of your existing belief system. Maybe you have to tell yourself something about the stimulus that labels it as cheeky, insolent, aggressive, or inappropriate, before you get to feel the bad emotional response.
All this happens at an unconscious level, in a fraction of a second – and the more times you do it, the quicker it happens. Like anything else, you get better with practice – your brain forms new neural pathways which are widened and strengthened with every repetition, so the message to set off the response can whip along them faster and faster. You’re not consciously aware of this process. As a result, it really does feel like the stimulus is causing the next thing you’re aware of – the unresourceful emotional response.
The psychologist Viktor Frankl was imprisoned in Auschwitz and other concentration camps for five years. In that situation he saw the worst of humanity in the behaviour of the guards. Many of his fellow prisoners gave up, or acted as if they had abandoned all human feeling in the struggle to survive, as we would expect in such a terrible predicament.
But Frankl observed other prisoners who, despite being in the worst place in the world, were still able to find meaning in their lives and could still act with kindness and courage. What he saw of the best and worst in people in the camps inspired him to move away from Freud’s belief that the driving force of our actions is instincts and urges; instead, he came to believe that man’s deepest desire is to search for meaning and purpose. Later he wrote the great book ‘Man’s Search for Meaning’, in which he says “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
Thanks, Aquascoot. What do you think the stimulus was for this?
Quote:THE FAR & AWAY LEADING REPUBLICAN CANDIDATE & FORMER PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA, WILL BE ARRESTED ON TUESDAY OF NEXT WEEK. IT’S TIME!!! WE JUST CAN’T ALLOW THIS ANYMORE. THEY’RE KILLING OUR NATION AS WE SIT BACK & WATCH. WE MUST SAVE AMERICA! PROTEST, PROTEST, PROTEST!!!
Let's do this as a multiple choice.
a) Melania looked at him funny over breakfast
b) Fox and Friends didn't gush hard enough when they discussed his case after the morning news bulletin
c) Rudy said he should issue a statement
d) He was having a bad hair day
e) All of the above
Yes, the big fella had had his shower, washed his hair and touched it up with Hair For Men Blonde. He was doing his trick with his styling brush and hair-dryer, but the hair-dryer dropped into the sink and gave him an electric shock. This made his hair stand up like that nasty picture the fake news took of him getting off Air Force One in Paris and he lost it, pushing and kicking his valet Carlo, who was standing by with his jacket and red silk tie. He gave up on Carlo, got out his phone, put on the caps and hate-Truth Socialed his revenge on the CORRUPT DEEP STATE ESTABLISHMENT!!!
When he was done, he sat down with Melania for breakfast. Rudy called. The big fella ignored it. Rudy's text came through: maybe we should put out a press release. The big fella fumed. That Ainsley Earhart bitch has a big mouth. He'd already told Tucker she should be fired, he'd speak to Rupert if he took his calls. Melania gave him a look as if to say, "who's fault's this?"
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