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Sophia
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This is a tough subject, as a mum for many decades now, I’ve spoken in-depth with many that had abortions. Some horrible stories of back yard abortions because it wasn’t decriminalised. Going back to the 1950s of my mum’s child bearing age, and for many that migrated here in Oz, with not much money, or support, it was tough, I feel so sad about what many went through. Almost costing their own lives with infection or haemorrhaging.
This is why I say yes to decriminalised abortions. As if life isn’t going to get tougher financially! personally I value life and my first baby in 1980 was a “spontaneous abortion” which is actually a miscarriage. But that was a new phrase I never heard before then. I was very empty feeling after and sad. I get it others that are not ready would feel relief if they have an abortion.
One elder friend cried after her 20 year old daughter died (an aneurism in the brain) and she admitted to me she had an abortion with fourth baby as she just couldn’t cope. She said she had regrets, but it all surfaced when her daughter died. I loved her daughter, she was just a beautiful spirit. As shocked as I was about women choosing abortions back then when I was younger and not a mum yet, I had learnt of how traumatic it was for them and I realised I’m not to judge.
Those that choose to terminate their pregnancies, have to live with that forever, as it will somehow creep into their conscience as these things do.
I don’t want to see any female have to go backyard butchers as that’s a huge risk. If de”termination” is their choice, for that particular time in life, then for their safety I will agree with it.
So there are more questions to answer. Should motherhood be forced upon a woman if abortion is refused or criminalised (yes or no) Can a safe procedure to abort be preferenced (yes or no)
I recently was looking at very old photo albums my husband’s mother had put together. Most of the elderlies in photos were in Italy, neither my husband or myself ever knew our grandparents. I did meet one grandfather when he came to Australia.
I asked husband’s eldest cousin in her 80s which old woman in photo was the grandmother. When I looked at her, so very sad, a hard life, she had 5 children, and her husband died age 40 with pneumonia. I looked at the photos as it told me a story, something most of us don’t have today, it was the support of people around them. They may be poor, but rich with love and support. It’s the way to survive and the children look happy.
It must’ve been nice feeling that loving support of the village. And that’s what is lacking for many these modern times. Hence how alone a pregnant female must feel in these times. I would’ve liked 3-4 children, but I lacked support or that reassurance. I stopped at 2 because I was very isolated and it wasn’t easy. Husband worked long hours, my mum in law had no time for me as she was “too busy” on the farm, my mother had no time for me, “too busy” with family business. I now think they were the immigrants that came to this country for a better life …. Kind of selfish and thinking work and money was priority rather than a young mum needing help and companionship. I had 2 bubs close together and both in nappies, and I hadn’t had a good night’s sleep for 3 years. It took a toll on me.
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