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Re: any advice..
Reply #15 - Apr 29^th, 2017 at 1:54pm

Bobby. wrote on Apr 29^th, 2017 at 1:28pm:

cods wrote on Apr 29^th, 2017 at 1:06pm:

Bobby. wrote on Apr 29^th, 2017 at 12:45pm:

Mick Gatto can solve any problem for a fee.

bobby I would have posted this in the main forum if I wanted that advice....sorry I am not in the mood for wise cracks.

Sorry if the truth hurts.

I am letting you know, your trolling is not welcome in this thread. So stop.

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Reply #16 - Apr 29^th, 2017 at 1:55pm

Agnes wrote on Apr 29^th, 2017 at 1:54pm:

Bobby. wrote on Apr 29^th, 2017 at 1:28pm:

cods wrote on Apr 29^th, 2017 at 1:06pm:

Bobby. wrote on Apr 29^th, 2017 at 12:45pm:

Mick Gatto can solve any problem for a fee.

bobby I would have posted this in the main forum if I wanted that advice....sorry I am not in the mood for wise cracks.

Sorry if the truth hurts.

I am letting you know, your trolling is not welcome in this thread. So stop.

My lips are now sealed.

Carry on.

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Agnes Gold Member Offline fish dinner Posts: 6081 Bedford Park rnd	Re: any advice.. Reply #17 - Apr 29^th, 2017 at 1:58pm Thanks Bobs..
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Jovial Monk Gold Member Offline Dogs not cats! Posts: 51474 Gender:	Re: any advice.. Reply #18 - Apr 29^th, 2017 at 3:00pm One of my sisters is like that. Ride it out, support the one being attacked is about all you can do. Talk to the attacker and “you are all ganging up on me!” etc.
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Reply #19 - Apr 29^th, 2017 at 5:59pm

Jovial Monk wrote on Apr 29^th, 2017 at 3:00pm:

One of my sisters is like that.

Ride it out, support the one being attacked is about all you can do. Talk to the attacker and “you are all ganging up on me!” etc.

thanks one and all it helps talking about it./. I guess I am lookin g for the magic recipe and of course there isnt one

I do hope it hasnt dragged up bad memories for anyone

I forget sometimes I am not Robinson crusoe

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Agnes Gold Member Offline fish dinner Posts: 6081 Bedford Park rnd	Re: any advice.. Reply #20 - Apr 29^th, 2017 at 7:29pm no bad memories here..it took a long time to get over it properly but I am over it...I think I know who the mean pm nuisance is...delete his messages unread.. if you cannot figure out how to block just him delete them unread and report him to a Gmod..let the Gmod see his msgs first..
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Reply #21 - Apr 29^th, 2017 at 8:31pm

Agnes wrote on Apr 29^th, 2017 at 7:29pm:

no bad memories here..it took a long time to get over it properly but I am over it...I think I know who the mean pm nuisance is...delete his messages unread.. if you cannot figure out how to block just him delete them unread and report him to a Gmod..let the Gmod see his msgs first..

sorry agnes will send a PM

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Reply #22 - Apr 29^th, 2017 at 9:07pm

Redmond Neck wrote on Apr 29^th, 2017 at 1:07pm:

No disrespect to you girls, but I think this sort of behaviour is more a womans thing than a mans.

Men might have a bit of a blue but they don't tend to go on with it with this sort of childish stuff.

They may just ignore each other for a bit and then move on!

Yep. Women argue over the most trivial of things and make mountains out of molehills.

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Reply #23 - Apr 30^th, 2017 at 8:40am

we do....its a fact dunno what the hell is wrong with us...

in this case its sheer unreasonableness just will not listen to anyone or anything.. I am sad to say she is medicating with alcohol..and of course wont admit it..its a real mess.....and I feel so helpless what she is doing is not healing she's destroying.

no one can speak to her..... I guess this is the problem with all those who behave like this.... its all new for me...I am floundering.

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Jovial Monk Gold Member Offline Dogs not cats! Posts: 51474 Gender:	Re: any advice.. Reply #24 - Apr 30^th, 2017 at 9:00am Sorry to see you so distressed, cods. It isn’t your fault tho, this situation and don’t try to make it your fault. Stay strong so you are ready to help when you can.
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Reply #25 - Apr 30^th, 2017 at 9:28am

Jovial Monk wrote on Apr 30^th, 2017 at 9:00am:

Sorry to see you so distressed, cods. It isn’t your fault tho, this situation and don’t try to make it your fault. Stay strong so you are ready to help when you can.

thank you I am licking my wounds at the moment .. as a mum you cant help feeling the responsibility its comes with the job I think....the daughter that is being picked on is the one who does anything and everything for all of us shes there through thick and thin and doesnt deserve whats happening...

the daughter being a cow is hurt she is badly hurt and shes lashing out at everyone but if I say anythign she shuts up or walks out my fear is for my grandsons who are living with it....so rather than make things worse I back off.. yet I am not convinced I am doing the right thing....as what she is doin g is getting worse........at least one of her boys will be spending the night with me to watch the final of MKR....she hasnt stopped him coming here so I say thanks for that..

if only she would talk..

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Jovial Monk Gold Member Offline Dogs not cats! Posts: 51474 Gender:	Re: any advice.. Reply #26 - Apr 30^th, 2017 at 9:46am I know. All you can do is be nonjudgemental and supportive in whatever communications you have. Don’t cut off contact but don’t try to argue about the matter. Tell her you love her, finish all phone conversations, letters, emails etc. Bloody hard!
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Sprintcyclist Gold Member Offline OzPolitic Posts: 41483 Gender:	Re: any advice.. Reply #27 - Apr 30^th, 2017 at 9:49am Advice :- all the problems come from females. Ignore them, side 100% with the men. The females are crazed. It is pointless to try to 'make friends' with crazed people.
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Jovial Monk Gold Member Offline Dogs not cats! Posts: 51474 Gender:	Re: any advice.. Reply #28 - Apr 30^th, 2017 at 10:22am Ignore Sprint, cods. Not a clue. e.g. McCoys and Hatfields.
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Reply #29 - Apr 30^th, 2017 at 10:57am

cods wrote on Apr 30^th, 2017 at 9:28am:

Jovial Monk wrote on Apr 30^th, 2017 at 9:00am:

Sorry to see you so distressed, cods. It isn’t your fault tho, this situation and don’t try to make it your fault. Stay strong so you are ready to help when you can.

thank you I am licking my wounds at the moment .. as a mum you cant help feeling the responsibility its comes with the job I think....the daughter that is being picked on is the one who does anything and everything for all of us shes there through thick and thin and doesnt deserve whats happening...

the daughter being a cow is hurt she is badly hurt and shes lashing out at everyone but if I say anythign she shuts up or walks out my fear is for my grandsons who are living with it....so rather than make things worse I back off.. yet I am not convinced I am doing the right thing....as what she is doin g is getting worse........at least one of her boys will be spending the night with me to watch the final of MKR....she hasnt stopped him coming here so I say thanks for that..

if only she would talk..

Speaking as a total outsider to your situation Cods, I think you are "doing the right thing". I agree with what Monk has advised.

Don't take the risk that your daughter may stop your grandson's visits by pushing her too hard to talk about the situation.

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