mothra wrote on Apr 12
th, 2017 at 7:49am:
aquascoot wrote on Apr 12
th, 2017 at 7:45am:
time to stop the carnage mothra.
you need to be weaned off the "negative strokes"
even toddler training books advice parents to be careful of the tendency for toddlers to see negative attention as better then no attention at all.
please read and reflect ....
What you should NOT do:
Four types of reacting from an egocentric perspective, that are unproductive:
Evaluate: do not immediately let the other know whether you agree or disagree;
Probe: do not keep asking questions and investigating;
Advise: do not counsel purely based on your personal experiences;
Interpret: do not try to define the motives of the behavior based on your personal experience.
Four keys to EMPHATIC listening
Empathic listening is the way to go, and can be divided into different levels:
Mimic the content: repeat what the other just said. This makes sure that you are listening and that the other knows you are. The good thing of mimicking is that there is no place for judgment;
Rephrase the content: tell the same story, but in your own words. You do not only show that you are listening, but also that you understand what the other is (literally) saying;
Reflect on feelings: focus on the emotions that lie behind what is told, not on the words that try to express these emotions;
Rephrase the content and reflect the feeling: this is a combination of the second and third form of empathic listening. It shows that you are really listening and understanding what message lies behind the words.
https://i.makeagif.com/media/2-23-2014/02umGQ.gif i shall employ coveys approach and try to understand where you are coming from.
hmmm
it is not a good place.
there is a whirlwind of emotions.
what is usually needed is to calm the mind, either a meditation session or let these emotions dissipate by unleashing them on a solid grounded alpha male.
i find that a very feminine woman, who likes to experience "strong emotions' will usually seek out the company of a very grounded man as he allows her to experience these emotions "safely".
the problem for feminists and social justice warriors is that most very masculine and grounded men want to be with a feminine woman and wont tolerate bitchy and bratty behavior. so the feminist or social justice warrior , will often end up in an echo chamber of emotional juice or with a beta male who cant ground her and her 'state' becomes progressively unhinged.
i feel sympathy for people stuck in this "living hell'.
the best advice i can give is to hit the gym, eat really healthy greens, lean meat fish and chicken and do gratitude meditation.
i give this advice with sincerity but i expect another horse poop GIF but no problem. i am happy to be a grounding influence as i hate to see emotional distress.