Lord Herbert wrote on Feb 23
rd, 2017 at 10:34am:
aquascoot wrote on Feb 23
rd, 2017 at 9:45am:
I'll be the first to admit that i'm not an alpha, but i have learnt how to use alpha behaviours, even if just to make my relationship a better one for my partner.
i dont want to sound crass, but its also how i "understand" Trumps announcement that "they just let you do it".
STOP THE PRESS!
You can't possibly be confessing to being a Beta-sheep in Alpha-wolf's clothing?!
WHERE are my smelling salts?
This was a typo, aqua, which even the best of us are guilty of from time to time.
Herbert, i think when we are young, we believe what the mainstream tell us.
get a good job, be a gentleman, impress her with your watch and car, be super nice....
it doesnt work,
when you do that, you are coming from a position of low status and you are trying to 'qualify yourself" to the girl..
Do you like me yet? is the mainstream media frame...and why not, they want to sell gym memberships, watches, clothes, expensive resturant meals.
but the truth is that women are turned on by behaviours .
and if you just act like a confident guy who doesnt care, if you are a bit indifferent, then they 'value' your validation.
Trump is confident, trump is a bit indifferent, trump doesnt really seem to care about others opinion of him.
some (not all women) are super attracted to this.
the same with staff.
if you are too much of a people pleaser as a boss..they lose respect.
you have to have firm boundaries, you have to have good emotional control.
now , both staff and women will "buy in"
and when staff or women "invest" it just becomes an upward spiral. the more invested they are, the more they want it to work and the harder they try and now you can treat them really really really good.
but if you start off as a weak supplicating beta male in business or in relationships...you will be destroyed.
some people seem to think alpha behaviour is the behaviour of an asshole. nothing could be further from the truth. it is an act of contribution and love to "lead"