random wrote on Feb 3^rd, 2016 at 2:57pm:


Because it is different.  Domestic violence also involves attempts to control another person, is usually accompanied by mental abuse, and is invariably an ongoing process over a period of weeks, months, or even years.  It is much worse and insidious than a one-off assault at the pub.

Sir Grappler Truth Teller OAM wrote on Feb 3^rd, 2016 at 11:04pm:

Domestic violence occurs when someone tries to control their partner or other family members in ways intended to intimidate or oppress them.  The perpetrator may be male or female.

Sir Grappler Truth Teller OAM wrote on Feb 3^rd, 2016 at 11:04pm:

That would vary from case to case.  there is no one answer to your question.

Sir Grappler Truth Teller OAM wrote on Feb 3^rd, 2016 at 11:04pm:

It isn’t.

Sir Grappler Truth Teller OAM wrote on Feb 3^rd, 2016 at 11:04pm:

You clearly have some chip on your shoulder that is inhibiting your perception of reality.

Wolseley wrote on Feb 3^rd, 2016 at 11:24pm:


I'll get back to you later.. not 'one-sided'?  Show me the men and women out there speaking out against abuse of men verbally and physically.... and not just some endless array of women and feminist running dogs like Morrison II, who are actually addressing the Rosie Batty concepts of FAMILY violence.. and not 'domestic violence' under its current paradigm of 'man perp - woman victim'.

SHOW ME!

Chip on my shoulder?  Sorry, lad - it's not my shoulder you need to look at but at the overall view and the prevailing hot air winds.... you've missed the boat.... and fall squarely into the category of one who does NOT understand societal violence and the institutional place it occupies in this poor fellow - my country.

When your courts and such STOP attempting to beat and browbeat men into submission over 'domestic violence' and actually address the issues of violence in an equal-handed manner.. get back to me.

And stop automatically utilising the Batty incident as some sort of generalised incident with 'man perp' = 'all men are perps and must be condemned without recourse to law lest they harm someone' - the man was a nutter and she allowed it to happen... something she has to live with.

Walk a mile in them shoes and THEN - and only then - talk.

ian wrote on Feb 3^rd, 2016 at 11:29pm:


Ian, i am a keen student of nature.
I am a keen student of "evolutionary pressure"
Maria asked what century i am from.
i like to think of myself as grounded in "reality" and so one needs to take a very very very long look at the human species to understand how we got to where we are.
i am certainly not grounded in the 1960's hippie movement and all the upheaval that we have seen since.
has there been enough "evolutionary pressure ' on all this upheaval to see if it will stand the test of time??

Things happen in nature a certain way for very good reasons.
Alpha males are innate leaders.
through 100's of generations of man/woman kind, this has been the response of the evolutionary pressure.
Alpha males keep order amongst the betas.
through hundreds of generations this has been the case.
Alpha males and leading females begin a fairly strict disciplinary process , virtually from birth in nature and certainly from pre pubescense in humans.

bad behaviour amongst "the young males" is simply extinguished.
banishment from the tribe meant almost certain death.


since 1965, we have (for no good scientific reason) decided that bad behaviour in young delta males should be dealt with by low ranking females with a new and novel approach...talk therapies and counselling, trying to use logic to control emotions.
This wont work.

Emotional mastery must be learnt by the individual himself and he must learn it as part of the natural social conditioning that his brain has adapted to over 100's of generations.

An emotional horse will not respond to love and tenderness and sweet platitudes. it must learn the hard lesson that it has to "control its own emotions" . Only then is it safe.  To allow emotions (like anger , violence, etc) to go uncorrected is just insane and when pressure is applied (say when hot buttons are pushed) if the lessons have not been learnt ....disaster will occur.
this is what is happening.
Alpha males are not manning up to their responsibilities to teach this emotional mastery to young men and only alpha males can teach it 

aquascoot wrote on Feb 3^rd, 2016 at 9:21am:




No he's not ... and no you're not.

Keep exercising that muscle Horse Boy. It still needs some work.

random wrote on Feb 5^th, 2016 at 5:13am:



i dont think there ARE benefits of social existence in terms of what we should be focusing on (our own personal growth).
the over governed, over regulated, over comfortable existence has put most people in a Durrrrrr state.
They are completely divorced from the universal principles which exist.
They seek comfort, they expect to live in a "me,me,me" paradim.
They are like a black hole, always in scarcity, always with themselves and their personal comfort as there only concern.
They do not realise  the universal principles of life .
They want society to make it all comfortable for them.
They do not realise that they should not be like a black hole , but rather like a star, radiating out energy. giving of themselves and contributing.


A man 3000 years ago, running round the savana, had to become in tune with the universal principles.
He was lucky in that he had to accept the world as it is and this was his passage to adulthood.

All people deserve the right to have this passage to adulthood.
they deserve the right to face adversity, accept adversity and get better thru adversity.

modern society will have none of this.
people expect all adversity to be taken away by society and by government.
Thus there is no growth, there is no getting better, there is only getting Bitter.

there is only the narrative of a child.

Help me.
Please help me.
If i complain long enough will somebody help me.
My mummy always used to help me when i had a problem (now i expect the government and society to fill this role til my death ).
Are you my mummy?

I have learned helplessness.
If i write a cry baby narrative , will somebody help me.
If i play the victim, will somebody help me.

There is no growth.
There is only misery, once you depart from the universal laws, there is only suffering.

Why do you think we have record obesity, record depression, record anxiety, record relationship breakdown......because we have gone against the universal laws that govern how we become an adult
How we become masculine or feminine.
No police force or government law will fix this for you my friend 

mothra wrote on Feb 5^th, 2016 at 4:32am:


You need to quit the reflexive arguments - The principle underpinning it cannot even be disputed.

One cannot teach what one does not know.

A woman teaching a boy to be a man is like a ballerina teaching someone to box.  That is not to say there is nothing to learn from the ballerina, but it won't make you a boxer.   

Like aqua, I too secretly hope for the "eureka" moment with my heart, even though my head tells me it's not going to happen.