Neferti wrote on Oct 20
th, 2015 at 4:10pm:
Aussie wrote on Oct 20
th, 2015 at 3:56pm:
Neferti wrote on Oct 20
th, 2015 at 3:51pm:
I opened up and you males still think it was MY FAULT?
Who said that? I did not see anything of the kind. How would anyone know one way or the other?
Unlike you, Aussie, I speak the truth and it has taken me some "courage" to tell all what my marital/divorce background was all about. I currently live alone and have done since 1983.
I am happy now but I still see problems between partners that often result in a MURDER. It is very difficult for a female to walk out on a marriage. I did it. I did NOT want anything "material" from him. I wanted sole "custody" of my child. That was it.
Within 18 months I had already bought a house ........ he was let off and gave me nothing material. I really and truly started AGAIN.
Just ignore Mozzie. Spray some insect repellent on him. Eventually, he'll go away.
What I wanted to say though was :
GOOD ON YOU NEF!
Similar story here unfortunately...although my marriage only lasted for 5 terrible agonizing years...before I got out of it and slapped him with divorce papers.
I just couldn't take any more of his passive -aggressive control freak shyte.
I lost a lot of money trying to get away from the bastard.
Looking back though, I feel proud that I stood up to his revolting threats and despicable mind games.
My freedom, health and life were worth it.
My faith in God and in my family was always very strong though. He hated that....hence why he did everything to keep me isolated from both.
Fast forward to today....I've found someone more rewarding and who is the exact opposite of my ex. I've also recovered my monetary losses....got my life back on track. Beautiful.
But by God the whole thing could have been so much easier had I received some support from my mum. She just couldn't cope with it all and kept urging me to make the violent marriage work somehow.
Why? Because God hates divorce and only blesses a person's 1st marriage. That and the scandal and ridicule of a divorce in the family.
Bloody hell...if my daughters ever came to me asking for help because of domestic violence in their home, I'd do everything to help out...and to get them out.
I'm from a very different generation to my mum. I suppose I should keep that in mind.
Anyway...i