Lisa Jones wrote on Oct 20
th, 2015 at 11:35am:
I find it extraordinary...how we approach topics such as this one.
I'm a woman and a survivor of middle class domestic violence. I was once married to a passive aggressive perpetrator who was much older than me.
I can relate to that, seriously.
I don't usually intentionally give out details on Forums but, the reason I left my husband in 1981 was because he had become "abusive".
He tended towards "controlling" but I was young and I thought that he was being "considerate" when telling me what I should wear and how I should do my hair, etc.
It wasn't until I had my first (and only) daughter that I woke up. He would never have hurt my daughter but he did begin to "abuse" me, verbally. Jealousy?
I argued back and, one night, he "head butted" me ...... that was IT. I carefully arranged to "do something" ....
I left for my Mother's in Melbourne for Christmas on 14 December, 1980. My husband was overseas on business at the time, so I got out of it by saying that I would go "down do Mum's early" and he could follow later.
I left with a suitcase of clothes and the toys from Santa for my child (just 5). When he rang at Mum's, I said "It's over". I was scared of him and what he might do, so I left and went to Mum!
I never went back to Sydney. A friend was visiting rellies in Canberra so I came here and have been here ever since.