Lisa Jones wrote on Oct 9^th, 2015 at 8:00am:


I agree that we who have seen the dragon often have no real measures by which to decide who is 'good' or 'bad' for us.

My two sisters are living proof of that, as am I.

However - that does not in any way remove from others their very real responsibility to behave as mature adults and to keep their promises and such.  If anything, my personal experience shows very clearly that this maturity and responsibility is the main requirement for any solid relationship.

Unfortunately we live in a society in which the lizard brains of most see in any vulnerability an opportunity to gain something for one's self, and many such lizard brains stop at that point.  these are often called 'business people' and politicians, and the like.... but they are only those things in name only.

For example, it has taken me fifteen years to show my 'ex' - for whom I am now the 24/7 carer since there is nobody else - to see that those of my background will die pulling aces out of the pack for those with whom we are associated - and that she had drawn an ace while she was busy calling every card a blank.

I am 66 - I have a job - I work relentlessly at building a better future for us both - and I am failing in health, but only accept that when I am nearly on my knees.  We of that kind are called 'over-achievers' - we have a desire and the ability to over-achieve - and we do so relentlessly.

Is it not time when a society will recognise the genuine merit of those who really do the hard yards?

Do you have any idea how insulting and abusive it is to be labeled as the 'abuser' by some silly trollop when you have endured abuse all your life?

This is the stuff of revolution - you may mark my words.

I will NEVER accept the approach to 'domestic violence' adopted by government here, which has caused so much harm to so many innocents, and has allowed so many trollops to do whatever they want.

Another page turner...



(nothing chauvinist here)....

Aussie wrote on Oct 11^th, 2015 at 10:35pm:


Kinda makes 'withholding the cash' pretty tame. eh?

Phemanderac wrote on Oct 8^th, 2015 at 9:53pm:


Getting better, but it's still abstract without concrete examples.

cods wrote on Oct 9^th, 2015 at 9:25am:


Just read your post and felt like giving you one of these :

((((( hugs )))))

I think we are getting away from my point - that continuing the current approach of vilifying and blaming men exclusively has not worked and never will, and is itself the cause of the escalation in violence between men and women and within families.

I took the ex - for whom I am carer - to a dental appointment at a community health centre today - while she was getting re-fanged, I glanced over the DV literature.

Not one addressed the issues in any even-handed manner and all are addicted to the same old 'men v women' concept that has caused and is causing so terribly much strife.

One classic was a pamphlet asking men if their behaviour was causing problems and offering them 'assistance' for 'their' problems- there was nothing similar directed at women....

NOBODY asks women if THEIR behaviour is causing problems, and NOBODY directs women to assistance with THEIR problems.

Men are to blame for everything it seems, and denial will not change that reality.

While ever this continues there will be no clear way ahead.

Postmodern Trendoid III wrote on Oct 12^th, 2015 at 9:59pm:


How about:-  "I'll get the cops on you if you don't do the washing up and give me the credit card, I'll take the kids, have you thrown out of the house, and have you black-listed for any decent job!"