This should drag a few of the sisterhood out in the open. I seem to remember it being high on their gender equality list.
Let me just preface by brief remarks by admitting openly that I am a lazy bum around the house. Now you'll be able to judge what I say for what it probably is - a crock of that highly respected Chinese vegetable garden fertiliser.

My belief is that men, well most men, will never share the housework fairly. Not even your modern metrosexual (is that what you call it?).
The reason is quite simply most men don't give a toss about whether the place is clean & tidy. So there's no motivation to do anything about it until it's difficult to negotiate a passage from one room to another OR until the pitch of complaint from the partner reaches unbearable levels. What did Seinfeld say? - women nest & men hunt?
Most women on the other hand have an inbuilt radar for things being out of place and an alarm goes off in the nervous system. Not all women, some are just as slobby as we are.

You see, it's  evolution. You will have noticed (and this is another crock) that in the bird population it's quite often the male who does the nest building and maintenance. But we've moved on along the evolutionary trail into a more enlightened era of the division of labour.
Men keep you up to date with the football scores and you keep the nest tidy. We mostly do take the rubbish out when you've gathered it together. We do have some remnants of our old DNA.

So there, some thoughts for you to get your false nails into.

what a load of crocc ... don't judge most men by your low standards

I am not happier with a dirty house in fact my standards are higher than my wifes, and she is generally pretty clean  ..

I always get irritated because most in my house have a policy of 'put it down', rather than 'put it away' ... it drives me nuts .. all you do is handle the damn thing twice rather than once by just putting it down.

My husband works 14 hours a day if you include travel time. He still cooks us dinner every night - not because he has to, but because he enjoys it.

I would never live with anyone again.  I still have 2 adult children at home and I don't need a 3rd to cook for, wash for and clean up after 

I also like 'outside' work and am happy to do it myself, when I want it done and not when someone has to do it because they are knee deep in grass/weeds or have to be nagged at to have some pride.

If you do housework, it becomes expected of you.  Better to do it sparingly, so it is rightly seen as a treat and appreciated accordingly.  Unless of course it's your job, in which case you should do it and be thankful you have so many labour saving devices that it takes bugger all time anyway.

I was hoping to stir some outrage from the ladies (as I'm sure most realised), but the only person I stirred was John Smith.
Waste of time - I can stir him anytime.

My husband and I...I sound like the queen...kind of share the load, except I do the bulk of the cooking, because I can (and it's my profession), and he does the bulk of the mowing etc.  We don't have children, yet, so I don't know how things will change when we do. I'm cool with how things are right now and hopefully when there are more than just he and I in the home, we'll just maintain the status quo, with tweaks. Cods, it sounds like you had an awesome husband, I hope I'm that lucky with mine. Looking good so far 

Mattywisk wrote on Jun 8^th, 2014 at 3:26pm:





Thanks matty  I've been a member for a while, I just don't come in and post often. I appreciate your sentiment though.