Quote:Your standard response to anyone who is critical of Islam is that they are ignorant or not willing to learn and either way Abu should not bother responding to them.
It's not that you are critical of Islam that is the problem, it's the attitude. I am critical of some Islamic teachings myself and often argue with my husband about things like queer rights. We have many...lively debates.
Quote:When he does give a striaght answer rather than an excuse for not answering his own words suffice.
He has given you straight answers about Islam before. So have I. Your method of debate is to choose a sentence out of a couple and use it as a weapon.
Quote:It is pretty rare these days as he is afraid to do anything other than criticise the 'evil west' or post fluff pieces about how nice Muslims are.
I've said this before, but I really do think that most of that is in reaction to some of the bullshit that is posted on here by people like Sprint, Yadda and Salad In. A lot of Muslims have legitimate grievances with some of the things that the West have done and there are many non-Muslims with a sense of fairness who can see and support this. Similar to your stance on niqab. I know that has absolutely nothing to do with any kind of empathy with Muslims on your part, but at least you were fair enough to recognise that a ban would be an assault on their democratic freedom.
Quote:Wrong. I have gone to extraordinary lengths to get a simple answer from Abu. Abu has gone to extraordinary lengths to avoid answers and make excuses. I put it to you that it is you who is interfering with genuine learning by facilitating Abu's deflections and constantly changing the subject from Islam to our 'unwillingness to learn about Islam'. Abu is a big boy. He can answer for himself
Yes he can, but if you're asking a genuine question about the religion, an answer from anybody who knows it should be enough. I have answered you plenty of times with the best intentions and you have
never accepted them for what they are and moved on. Your intention is not to learn, but to challenge and change Abu's mind.
Quote:That's because you are trying to prevent debate. I am trying to discuss Islam, and you are trying to prevent discussion of Islam by making it personal.
I am absolutely not trying to prevent debate.
Quote:Annie it occurs to me that for all your criticism of other people debating incorrectly, you have not actually said what they are doing wrong. So what do you suggest? Should we say nice things about Islam? Should we refrain from discussing anything controversial? Should we pretend we are interested in reverting to Islam?
You're going to get back what you put in. You don't have to pretend anything - just have a little respect, because after all,
you want something from Abu.If you want him to give you the respect of a straight forward answer, then give him the respect of asking genuine questions without the bad attitude and condescension and attempts at entrapment.
How would you like to be asked if you were a Muslim?