Well I reckon that most relationships break down because of a lack of respect, and the growing resentment which inevitably follows.

People have their roles in a relationship, and the expectations that partners attach to the role they are given, or adopt, needs to be understood, and agreed upon by both, for a relationship to work.

I see some relationships, for want of a better word, where a successful man wants little more than something pretty to parade in public, and provide limited companionship, and in return he invests money into the relationship, and for a great many, this is enough.

At the opposite extreme you have those who are smitten with romantic tales of soul mates, and true love's kiss, and try to re-create a relationship of fairytale splendour, which too often does not lead to happily ever afters.

The relationships that work, are the ones where the partners value and respect the input of the other, but for that to have a chance, both parties need to contribute, and that is not always the case.
Sometimes it is just ignorance of what each partner brings to a relationship, where both do contribute, but through some personal flaw, some can over value their own input, while under valuing that of their partner, and if they do not change that perception, their relationships will always be doomed.

It is sad how many relationships fail, and I look forward to the day when people are educated differently, and greater effort is put into helping people better understand, and appreciate themselves, so they can better understand and appreciate others.

And your last paragraph hits the nail on the head Mozza .. education and awareness = the key.

I may not know Muso or Mozza personally .. but if their posts in here are anything to go by .. they must be BLOODY AWESOME guys!

Much respect for showing such insight!

Lisa Jones wrote on Mar 26^th, 2011 at 10:14pm:



LOL...dunno if it is worse for those in a close relationship to agree 100% on politics or to be diametrically-opposed...

I expect that most of us, who are passionate enough to debate politics online, have to tread more carefully with our loved ones and friends...

Equitist wrote on Mar 26^th, 2011 at 10:21pm:


Perhaps that's why people debate online - a safe channel of interaction

Put a bean in a jar for every time you tear one off during the first year of marriage, then take one bean out for every time after the first year and it'll take you the rest of your life to empty the jar...

Sooner or later comes her farts in bed and her sh!t stains on the side of the bowl.

A woman is like a goddess in the cargo cult of desire.... But come the day she runs out of cargo...

I always admire those people who marry their first love, mostly just after High School and have some children. You can tell straight away that no job, career, other male or female can tear this couple apart with seductions of money or sex.
They are strong in their marriage and love for one another.
Their behaviour to one another is amazingly great and I once picked a couple straight up (as being first time love/marriage) because of how they looked at one another after many years together, the way they spoke to one another and the way they acted when together.
They really were the best example of what 'True Love' is about.
I even expressed my admiration for them and their relationship. It was a testament to the very well behaved, happy and polite children.
They nodded sympathetically at my run of pathetic attempts at relationships that were basically based upon Lust and List (making notches on the bedpost, Ego, etc ....which equals = WANKER).
I have a mate with HIV (AIDS around the corner) who followed Lust, especially in Thailand, and now he is VERY LONELY as it is so difficult to find 'good company'. Alas, for him it is too late.

People who think they are superior because of many partners might in a way, be 'sexually' superior, but they are definately not superior when it comes to 'love'. I know Pink sings songs about 'Love', but in her real life, Career comes first before an orgasm.


Conclusion: I really regret not having hooked up with a decent beautiful girl when younger and making 'more' out of life with her.

...I can honestly say, if your partner has had x30 lovers before you - thats x30 times they will let you down in a day.