http://www.couriermail.com.au/lifestyle/men-worse-at-hiding-affairs-researchers-find/story-e6frer4f-1225905044330

WHEN it comes to having an affair, men are apparently strictly amateurs compared with women.

They are twice as likely to get caught because they're so hopeless at covering their tracks, researchers have said.

Women, however, are far more skilled in the arts of hiding their affairs, particularly when it comes to handling technology such as emails, texts and social networking sites.

According to the researchers, the difference is so great that one in 10 male cheats has been exposed as a love rat, compared with just one in 20 women.

A shameless 40 per cent of women who have affairs use an alibi friend to help them gain more time to spend with their lover. Men, on the other hand, choose to keep details of their trysts a secret, never telling a soul for fear of being caught. Just 6 per cent have a regular alibi. The poll, from IllicitEncounters.com, found that half of men but only 21 per cent of women were found out via text, email or phone call.

"Careless men often leave their mobile phones lying around, giving their partners a chance to check up on them," Sara Hartley, of IllicitEncounters.com, said.

"We find men can be surprisingly reckless when it comes to disguising their affairs," Ms Hartley said.

"Women are far more careful to log out of private email accounts and Facebook and keep separate email addresses and SIM cards specifically for their lover's use.

"Technology can be the downfall of cheating spouses – one suspicious text message or email and everything can go to pot.

"Women are also more likely to tell their friends and create a network of 'affair' friends who can cover for them if things get sticky."

According to Dr David Holmes, a psychologist at Manchester Metropolitan University, women are having more affairs than ever but behave very differently from men when they cheat.

"The biggest difference is that women are much better at keeping their affairs secret," he said.

"They are better liars because they're more psychologically sophisticated.

"You can argue about whether it's nature or nurture, but women are programmed to be much more relationship and people orientated than men.

"Emotionally, they make plans and have strategies, while men are more impulsive."

He also said women are better at multi-tasking and this greatly helps them to carry out their affairs.

"They can keep all the different strands of a lie in their minds, remember them and make them convincing," he said.

So, then you got married.  According to that research, you have only a 5% chance of becoming aware that yer Missus is playing up.

Perhaps it's because the guys can't stop smiling that gives them away???

That, and telling everyone at the pub??

if a woman tells you that she loves you you tell her you love mario games

The article comes as no surprise. Women are far superior in deception.
When women lie they are merely exercising their weapons.

Men are generally better at short term lies and women are generally better at long term lies IMO. All biological reasoning there of course.

If a man ever wonders what went wrong after she had gotten fat and ugly, and after he'd stuck by her through thick and even thicker, then it's too late, he's missed his opportunity to lie.
Now he's the bunny. He will work and keep working as a slave for the rest of his God Damned life...'cause he's the (white male caucasian) bunny that our society relies upon for just about everything.i

In my experience, very few couples are 100% compatible in the first instance - and sometimes it is habit, convenience and/or fear of the unknown that keeps people together...

That's not necessarily a bad thing - especially given that the seemingly more attractive grass elsewhere ain't necessarily suitably 'greener' eitherer!

Besides, all the good ones are usually taken!

Oh, and people often end up swapping one set of interpersonal problems for a slightly different set - and the older we get: the set of baggage that we each carry gets bigger and more tarnished!

Amadd wrote on Aug 20^th, 2010 at 1:03pm:


That's a fascinating way of looking at things - I shall henceforth ponder it...