Quote:The point I'm trying to make is how to handle it with kids. Stupid to go back to the old ways where it was all hidden away and treated as some big adults secret, but what do the kids make of all this.
Sex in almost all it's guises is so in your face now your kids can't help but be exposed to it all. So what's the best way to handle it so they see it all in perpective?
Maybe you explain it like driving? some things you just need to wait for.
I have 2 sons, 9 and 11, I would like them not to see sex as something dirty and secretive so do I let them read and discuss everything? or do I just say 'be a kid and leave the sex subject to the adults.? and how do I curb their curiosity about it, or do I let them have free rein?
What do I do? what do I hide and what do I allow?
My sister is having trouble with her 13yr old daughter wanting to wear makeup and wearing clothes more suited to a 20yr old. Does she allow her to follow her 'sexy' impulses (which are probably natural but could cause sexual trouble, men already look at her ) or does she rein them in.
You're the parent, you know your kids better than anybody else, so it's up to you to draw the line where you see fit.
As long as you don't apply cruel and unusual punishment they probably won't give a damn about what you think anyway.
Wherever you draw the line, they'll probably also get some personal satisfaction from crossing it. So I wouldn't stress out about it too much, there's a large range within that bell curve in which to draw your line.
No doubt capitalist forces have moved that line further across than that which most parents feel comfortable with, becasue sex sells better than oil.
Sooner or later most of us realise that the most boring sex with somebody that you love is far more exciting than the advertised ultimate orgasm, nomatter how saturated we've become with media bs.
Good parents are always concerned to some extent about their kids making sexual mistakes, and for good reason. But what else can you do except for trying to impart your knowledge and experience?
Everything you've mentioned falls within the boring mean of the bell curve, so what's to worry about? There's nothing worse than a worry wart parent.
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