We all know it's human nature to want what we can't get, but just for the sake of sparking debate, here are reader L's top five types of women whom men should avoid dating "unless they want to get their hearts, minds and bodies used and abused" ...


1) The Flirty-Bird

Men love women who flirt. Men are drawn to a good flirt because, besides being fun and charming, she's definitely not shy. The flirter shows interest right off the bat, making the "getting to know you" aspect of courtship all the easier. For a guy, not having to do all the work is a relief.

But there's a difference between a situational flirt and a serial flirt, and the latter is someone whom men just don't want to deal with. A serial flirt giggles, touches and tosses her hair at everyone: the best friend, the boss, the father. A woman who bats her lashes indiscriminately seems like a challenge at first - how do I get her to pay attention just to me? - but that game gets old really fast.

After a while guys realise that the Flirty-Bird needs constant attention because she's stricken with major self-esteem issues. An extremely confident and patient man may be able to deal with this kind of behaviour, but he'll probably run himself ragged before realising that the Flirty-Bird isn't worth his time.

2) The Commitment-Phile

Imagine that you're a guy for a second. You meet a fantastic woman and you're having a great first date. The lighting is just right and the food is perfect. You're sharing a great conversation and just beginning to get comfortable when ... WHAM! Your date starts talking about your wedding location, how many kids she wants and Big Lug, the name of your future dog.

It puts a lot of pressure on a guy right off the bat. In any healthy relationship, the first couple of months - and especially the first couple of dates - should be kept light. A woman who fast-forwards to the happily ever after makes guys wonder if they really are her perfect match. With such a speedy narrative, perhaps her plans are all about fulfilling her dreams regardless of who is standing across from her at the altar.

3) The Cling-On

A needy nuisance, this gal can't go anywhere or do anything without the company of her man. She adopts his interests, calls 15 times a day and flies off the handle any time she's not around to monitor his behaviour. The Cling-On is more work than a relationship deserves. She is there at your beck and call and relies on you to entertain her because she basically has no life of her own. The Cling-On smothers any chance of a guy missing her by robbing him of energy and exhausting his patience with her demands.

4) The Party Girl

When men meet this ball of fun, they think she is the life of the party. She's carefree, maybe a little wild, and from the outside looks like a person they might be interested in. However, once they get a closer look, they realise that her entire life is a party. While a guaranteed good time might seem like a good idea, what will she be like in the sobering light of day?

Her hilarious antics, outgoing personality and righteous dance moves are good in small doses, but the Party Girl doesn't know the meaning of "closing time". It's hard to have a healthy relationship with a person who is masking major problems underneath his or her party hat. Plus, we all know that people who can't amuse themselves without mind-altering substances just aren't any fun when the party is over.

5) The Windbag

Yakkity Yak. The Windbag is the woman who never shuts up, barely stopping to breathe. Seeming only concerned about what is going on in her life and sharing her prattling insights, this Chatty Cathy also has drama-queen tendencies (not good).

The Windbag's rambling renditions drive men crazy for obvious reasons, but they also make men feel a little obsolete since they can go on and on without anyone else's input. Most people think it takes two to have a conversation, but not The Windbag.

Women are more verbal than men and get a bad rap for being garrulous. However, the Windbag doesn't know that the sound of silence is golden. She needs to learn that the more you talk, the less you learn."

6) Og

Nuff said.

(Mostly courtesy of the AGE)

You saying Og isn't real?
Phew...

Grendel wrote on Dec 14^th, 2008 at 12:24pm:


Ok Grendel..thats verrrrry telling.