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oceanz Gold Member Offline Auzgurl.. Posts: 3531 Gender:	men and love. Jun 25^th, 2007 at 1:51pm Wjy do some men have trouble admitting to theyre girlfriend they love them..? Women complain of this all the time. Is it pride.? Is it not wanting to show weakess/vulnerablilty..? Are they afraid of declaring theyre hand? etc. Of course some guys just dont, a lot do but cant actually say it.
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Reply #1 - Jun 25^th, 2007 at 2:41pm

Men know this is not something to lie about, so they wait until they are very sure to say so. They know it is not something they should get wrong, and may not be as in touch with their feelings as women. They may also take longer to trust. And they may be worried abotu power aspects of the relationship and getting hurt.

These things are all individual anyway i think, but i do agree with you that men are likely to take longer to know/say they love someone.

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Reply #2 - Jun 25^th, 2007 at 2:44pm

This is a dumb thread (No offence, Oceans).

Guys don't say they 'love you' because they want to be SURE that they do. They're simply being HONEST.

Most guys who say, "yeah, I love ya babe" are dirty rotten liars, willing to take advantage of the stupidity of women with rose coloured glasses. I loathe guys who say they love girls and don't mean it.

The guys who are hesitant to say they love you are the good guys... appreciate it oceans.

It's a big deal... love doesn't happen at first site... it happens over time IMO. It's difficult to establish... which is a big concern for guys.

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Reply #3 - Jun 25^th, 2007 at 2:52pm

Good answer DT - again I agree (except for the dumb thread bit).

Some women actually get worried when a man says he loves her - and would prefer he didn't unless she believed he really meant it. Sometimes even if he does mean it, she'd prefer not to hear it.

When a man says he loves you too quickly - you immediately think "What does he want". Slow and steady is the best way to go and make sure all emotions are reciprocal before accepting it.

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Reply #4 - Jun 25^th, 2007 at 3:18pm

mantra wrote on Jun 25^th, 2007 at 2:52pm:

Good answer DT - again I agree (except for the dumb thread bit).

Some women actually get worried when a man says he loves her - and would prefer he didn't unless she believed he really meant it. Sometimes even if he does mean it, she'd prefer not to hear it.

When a man says he loves you too quickly - you immediately think "What does he want". Slow and steady is the best way to go and make sure all emotions are reciprocal before accepting it.

Sorry Mantra and Oceans. I don't mean to be harsh. I just wanted to mnake it clear how some men like myself get annoyed at this kind of thing. I think girls are nieve if they haven't figured it out yet.

I guess you can say that eventually girls work it out... when they mature around 21-23... but don't realise it until it's too late and have kids...

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Reply #5 - Jun 25^th, 2007 at 3:34pm

ex-member DonaldTrump wrote on Jun 25^th, 2007 at 3:18pm:

mantra wrote on Jun 25^th, 2007 at 2:52pm:

Good answer DT - again I agree (except for the dumb thread bit).

Some women actually get worried when a man says he loves her - and would prefer he didn't unless she believed he really meant it. Sometimes even if he does mean it, she'd prefer not to hear it.

When a man says he loves you too quickly - you immediately think "What does he want". Slow and steady is the best way to go and make sure all emotions are reciprocal before accepting it.

Sorry Mantra and Oceans. I don't mean to be harsh. I just wanted to mnake it clear how some men like myself get annoyed at this kind of thing. I think girls are nieve if they haven't figured it out yet.

I guess you can say that eventually girls work it out... when they mature around 21-23... but don't realise it until it's too late and have kids...

I appreciate your honesty Donald.

So if a man doesnt say he loves her what are one -three definite signs that tells a female he loves her?

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Reply #6 - Jun 25^th, 2007 at 3:35pm

mantra wrote on Jun 25^th, 2007 at 2:52pm:

Good answer DT - again I agree (except for the dumb thread bit).

Some women actually get worried when a man says he loves her - and would prefer he didn't unless she believed he really meant it. Sometimes even if he does mean it, she'd prefer not to hear it.

When a man says he loves you too quickly - you immediately think "What does he want". Slow and steady is the best way to go and make sure all emotions are reciprocal before accepting it.

let it mature Mantra..like a good wine?

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Reply #7 - Jun 25^th, 2007 at 3:35pm

cautious connie wrote on Jun 25^th, 2007 at 2:41pm:

Men know this is not something to lie about, so they wait until they are very sure to say so. They know it is not something they should get wrong, and may not be as in touch with their feelings as women. They may also take longer to trust. And they may be worried abotu power aspects of the relationship and getting hurt.

These things are all individual anyway i think, but i do agree with you that men are likely to take longer to know/say they love someone.

and I ve it heard said connie some never ever say it..but show it thru deeds and committment.

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freediver Gold Member Offline www.ozpolitic.com Posts: 53184 At my desk.	Re: men and love. Reply #8 - Jun 25^th, 2007 at 3:36pm There are none. Women are too eager to believe they are loved and suggesting something like that would just encourage the self delusion. You should be asking about signs that he doesn't love you. Not that there are any of those either.
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Reply #9 - Jun 25^th, 2007 at 3:38pm

freediver wrote on Jun 25^th, 2007 at 3:36pm:

There are none. Women are too eager to believe they are loved and suggesting something like that would just encourage the self delusion. You should be asking about signs that he doesn't love you. Not that there are any of those either.

well perhaps you would care to expand Freediver..would you take your one true love a big groper for instance? Or maybe if you didnt take her one she should feel worried? Undecided

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freediver Gold Member Offline www.ozpolitic.com Posts: 53184 At my desk.	Re: men and love. Reply #10 - Jun 25^th, 2007 at 3:51pm She should chill out and stop trying to read minds.
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oceanz Gold Member Offline Auzgurl.. Posts: 3531 Gender:	Re: men and love. Reply #11 - Jun 29^th, 2007 at 10:57pm freediver wrote on Jun 25^th, 2007 at 3:51pm: She should chill out and stop trying to read minds. I think men need to learn to communicate with they're loved ones more. Why should women feel as though they have to guess?
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Reply #12 - Jun 29^th, 2007 at 11:00pm

oceanz wrote on Jun 25^th, 2007 at 3:38pm:

freediver wrote on Jun 25^th, 2007 at 3:36pm:

There are none. Women are too eager to believe they are loved and suggesting something like that would just encourage the self delusion. You should be asking about signs that he doesn't love you. Not that there are any of those either.

well perhaps you would care to expand Freediver..would you take your one true love a big groper for instance? Or maybe if you didnt take her one she should feel worried? Undecided

I think thered have to be signs your man no longer loves you..like for instance if your nightly cocoa began to take on a slightly bitter taste..or he staretd digging a big hole down the backyard and you guessed its not a new veggie patch..?

A copy of a 'Do it yourself Will Pack ' arrives in the mail. etc..there would be signs.

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cautious connie Full Member Offline OzPolitic Posts: 215	Re: men and love. Reply #13 - Jun 30^th, 2007 at 7:50am The main signs would be that he was not interested in being with you, hugging you, talking with you, or sex - in my view. He would also be less sympathetic to anything he seea as a personality foible than previously.
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AusNat 14/88 Ex Member Gender:	Re: men and love. Reply #14 - Jun 30^th, 2007 at 9:50am Here is the basic truth of it all. MEN+WOMAN+SEX =LOVE. We have only a desire to breed. ''Love'' was something invented by women to use as emotional blackmail against men.
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