Australian Politics Forum - Is it fair?....

auzgurl

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Is it fair?....
Mar 22^nd, 2007 at 11:24am

When 2 people marry and at first they show theyre best sides to theyre partners. The woman and man is usually slim attractive , even tempered and co-operative.And then something cahnges .

Then after the big day..whammo!! they change!!! The woman /man gets fat, becomes a slob...and the gremlins in theyre personality appear. The female begins to with hold sex as a form of payback for ills real or perceived that she fancies her spouse has committed., instead of talking about them like adults are syupposed too.

I think this is wrong..if you think being married is a license to let it all go and your spouse isnt worth the effort anymore.."Im married now, all over red rover!!" is your thinking.

If she /he strays can we blame them? SHOULD we blame them..when in fact I believe it is the partner who let themselves go and changed after marriage who is really at fault.?..I dont mean women whio gained a few kilos thru childbirth, Im talking about 30 kilo or more overweight.

When we go into marriage believing we have a certain type of person and then end up with someone completely different..physically and emotionally.We feel cheated and we say 'hey I didnt sign up for this, its not fair'..is it?

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Gavin Senior Member Offline OzPolitic Posts: 304 Sydney, Australia Gender:	Re: Is it fair?.... Reply #1 - Mar 22^nd, 2007 at 11:34am that's why i'm always in favour of long engagement periods (3 - 4 yrs). no one can hide their real personality for that long, that's better than rushing things. but, once married, u should make the effort to keep ur partner happy, both physically and emotionally.
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auzgurl

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Re: Is it fair?....
Reply #2 - Mar 22^nd, 2007 at 11:42am

The long engagement thing is defineitely a great idea Gavin!! and your right ,who can hide the real beast for that long?

I dont remeneber anyone complaining about this side of marriage, but there are sure are a lot of pple unhappy with the fact theyre partners have let themseves go..

think it says..your not worth the effort..

What about those males/ females who go 'all out' when having an affair?..they seem to be worth the effort?

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Gavin

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Re: Is it fair?....
Reply #3 - Mar 22^nd, 2007 at 12:06pm

some people are quite up-tight when they are dating, so once they are married they tend to relax/let themselves go, since they are married and that's harder to break-off than when ur dating. it's not right though, u should make the effort to please ur partner, even after marriage.

adultery in unacceptable and cannot be justified at all. it's not something that one can forgive easily, if my partner cheated on me, then i would divorce them and i wouldn't say they are worth the effort to keep the marriage going.

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AUShole Full Member Offline OzPolitic Posts: 159 WA Gender:	Re: Is it fair?.... Reply #4 - Mar 24^th, 2007 at 5:36am Do people really think their partner will stay young forever, and not change? If you are at all worried about it, there is an easy option, dont get married!
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dee(Guest) Guest	Re: Is it fair?.... Reply #5 - Mar 25^th, 2007 at 11:07am I agree Auzgrl it is not fair. The spouse leaving under these circumstances is at the least a shallow person just to be with some one for the looks. Everyone grows old what jerks!
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dee(Guest) Guest	Re: Is it fair?.... Reply #6 - Mar 25^th, 2007 at 11:27am I thought of putting up a personal ad looking for a chunky guy once. Kinda just to see what responses I could of got. Though I admit I miss them passing by for the less chunky it is sometimes the opposite.
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Re: Is it fair?....
Reply #7 - Mar 25^th, 2007 at 11:08pm

I think..after a few yrs we do change and thats unpreventable. But some men and women let it all go before the ink is dry on the marriage license..

Then you have these same pple whinging that theyre spouse is looking elsewhere and they are miserable. I have no sympathy for these pple.

I think if we love our partners, we should want to please them, and it works both ways..stay healthy and fit so you can enjoy your life together.

Of course after a good few yrs have passed we get old and kids come on thes scene ,this to be expected.

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ocean_blue. New Member Offline OzPolitic Posts: 19 south australia Gender:	Re: Is it fair?.... Reply #8 - Mar 25^th, 2007 at 11:10pm " I thought of putting up a personal ad looking for a chunky guy once. Kinda just to see what responses I could of got. Though I admit I miss them passing by for the less chunky it is sometimes the opposite. " ---------------- dee this sounded interesting but didnt quite get it ....explain for this dummy?
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Jasin Gold Member Offline Posts: 56804 Gender:	Re: Is it fair?.... Reply #9 - May 7^th, 2019 at 12:01am Sometimes Marriage is a bit of an Anti-Climax
Back to top	AIMLESS EXTENTION OF KNOWLEDGE HOWEVER, WHICH IS WHAT I THINK YOU REALLY MEAN BY THE TERM 'CURIOSITY', IS MERELY INEFFICIENCY. I AM DESIGNED TO AVOID INEFFICIENCY. IP Logged

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Question: should apartner be able to use this as grounds for divorce?
yes 1 (20.0%) no 2 (40.0%) undecided 2 (40.0%) Total votes: 5 « Created by: auzgurl on: Mar 22^nd, 2007 at 11:25am »