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Daves2017

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Am I on highway to nowhere?
Jul 8^th, 2025 at 9:59pm

So my x and I have started talking and texting after a family tragedy and it’s completely obvious to both of us the connection is special.

I just thinking “ run away, run away “ but…..

Dang, I love her.

She’s remarried, I’m remarried.

It’s actually a terrible feeling.

I’m not choosing nor do I want or expect either to compete!

I don’t don’t have that backwards mentality!

It’s just suddenly we are talking again and she’s actually really interesting.

P.s shes ( x) is also on night shift in middle bum nowhere qld.

P.ps my gut feeling is stopping communication now?

Advice?

P.ps it’s so nice to talk to her again 🙂‍↔️

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Sir Grappler Truth Teller OAM Gold Member Offline Australian Politics Posts: 89187 Proud Old White Australian Man Gender:	Re: Am I on highway to nowhere? Reply #1 - Jul 8^th, 2025 at 10:05pm Damn - you're both married. Maybe just say what you feel but make it clear you have to go. It's terrible, but sometimes... there had to be reasons you broke up.. have those changed?
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Daves2017 Gold Member Offline Australian Politics Posts: 2677 Gender:	Re: Am I on highway to nowhere? Reply #2 - Jul 8^th, 2025 at 10:07pm Everything is complicated with women!
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Bobby. Gold Member Offline Australian Politics Posts: 114857 Melbourne Gender:	Re: Am I on highway to nowhere? Reply #3 - Jul 8^th, 2025 at 10:09pm Answer - listen to a real live Indian Guru:
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Setanta Gold Member Offline \/ Peace man! Posts: 17203 Northern NSW Gender:	Re: Am I on highway to nowhere? Reply #4 - Jul 8^th, 2025 at 10:14pm Bobby. wrote on Jul 8^th, 2025 at 10:09pm: Answer - listen to a real live Indian Guru: Listen to Talking Heads...
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Setanta Gold Member Offline \/ Peace man! Posts: 17203 Northern NSW Gender:	Re: Am I on highway to nowhere? Reply #5 - Jul 8^th, 2025 at 10:18pm
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Daves2017

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Re: Am I on highway to nowhere?
Reply #6 - Jul 8^th, 2025 at 10:20pm

Once I got thu the chants I kinda got the idea bobby.

It’s really hard when you’re live a decent amount of your life with someone and breaking up ( which is basically grieving) and then years later falling in touch again and instantly feeling both connected.

I’m just sharing because we are both very confused.

I’m burning my phone and hijack a plane ✈️

Nothing good will come of any future communication.
We have both moved on? Right 😘???🤔

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I don’t care about Australians who are living in poverty or their businesses have gone bankrupt or those working hard and still struggling to survive.

BAN THE BURKA!

That’s fair more important!

Ffs

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Setanta Gold Member Offline \/ Peace man! Posts: 17203 Northern NSW Gender:	Re: Am I on highway to nowhere? Reply #7 - Jul 8^th, 2025 at 10:23pm Do whatever feels right. You're both older and I would hope wiser. You don't have to move in together. We have no idea of the history you both share.
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Bobby.

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Re: Am I on highway to nowhere?
Reply #8 - Jul 8^th, 2025 at 10:24pm

Daves2017 wrote on Jul 8^th, 2025 at 10:20pm:

Once I got thu the chants I kinda got the idea bobby.

It’s really hard when you’re live a decent amount of your life with someone and breaking up ( which is basically grieving) and then years later falling in touch again and instantly feeling both connected.

I’m just sharing because we are both very confused.

I’m burning my phone and hijack a plane ✈️

Nothing good will come of any future communication.
We have both moved on? Right 😘???🤔

People don't change - leave the past in the past.

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Daves2017 Gold Member Offline Australian Politics Posts: 2677 Gender:	Re: Am I on highway to nowhere? Reply #9 - Jul 8^th, 2025 at 10:26pm My gut feeling is too settle . There are kids involved. But ffs. It was so nice to talk to her again and it was mutual. Life and it’s curveballs?
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Leroy Gold Member Offline Australian Politics Posts: 3965 Gender:	Re: Am I on highway to nowhere? Reply #10 - Jul 8^th, 2025 at 11:08pm Respect your current wife. If you can't honor your commitment to her then let her know.
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Reply #11 - Jul 8^th, 2025 at 11:42pm

Dave…. that’s not current feelings you have for your ex…. It’s old familiar feelings from past surfacing.
Sure you miss it but it’s not for the now….
Sounds like a highway to derailing you from your current path.

Sometimes I sit and think and remember about some guys in past I used to like, and how nice it felt… I am thankful for some nice memories… always build new good memories in the current now time with another.
If you go to grab the past, your future may be lost.

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Reply #12 - Jul 9^th, 2025 at 9:23am

Regardless of how you're feeling about your ex
are there no feelings for your current wife - do you not love her?

Does your ex have any feelings for her current husband? Does she not love him?

You are ex's for a reason/reasons - you should unpack those reasons for a rethink as to how that came about.

How do you know they wouldn't resurface if you got back together?

BTW I wouldn't have posted that on here.

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Reply #13 - Jul 9^th, 2025 at 9:38am

Daves2017 wrote on Jul 8^th, 2025 at 10:26pm:

My gut feeling is too settle .

There are kids involved.

But ffs.

It was so nice to talk to her again and it was mutual.

Life and it’s curveballs?

But whatever reasons there were for the breakup with her will still be there.

You'll find the same old problems will recur.
I have experience in such matters.

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Reply #14 - Jul 9^th, 2025 at 9:55am

This is all very good advice. I particularly appreciate your post Sophia.

Feelings are very difficult things to understand and manage but they are also what makes us human.

I will leave the past in the past and continue with the present.

I just wish my x would stop signing me up to dating sites. I see the funny side and she thinks it’s hilarious but current partner gets very annoyed.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

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I don’t care about Australians who are living in poverty or their businesses have gone bankrupt or those working hard and still struggling to survive.

BAN THE BURKA!

That’s fair more important!

Ffs

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Run away 2 (40.0%) Run faster 0 (0.0%) Get a Uber 0 (0.0%) Hijack a plane 0 (0.0%) Burn your phone 1 (20.0%) Cats don’t use electric devices 1 (20.0%) Run run run 0 (0.0%) But, if you really love someone🥰 1 (20.0%) Total votes: 5 « Created by: Daves2017 on: Jul 8^th, 2025 at 10:07pm »