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. And I'm continuing:
Let's dispense once and for all with the notion that women are required to be superior to men in terms of morality, integrity, etc.
because it's unrealistic. It's said that men have a black/white impression of women, known as the Madonna/Whore syndrome
men give themselves leave to be all over the spectrum, however. If they're the male version of the female Whore, the man is known as a Jack the Lad, a Ladies Man, and other admiring descriptions
well, there are female equivalents. There are female Square Bears and Female Players. And they come in all shapes and sizes, most inspire lust. And they end up marrying and in most cases, produce children
Maybe the woman is bored with home and kids and sleeps around. Maybe her spouse is lousy in bed, stingy with money, unemployed, a mummy's boy, neurotic, has paedophilliac tendencies or a strong liking for his best friend Stewart. Whatever the case, the woman doesn't give a damn if the marriage survives. And when it ends, she wants the kids. Maybe the reason she wants the kids is entirely mercenary
OR, maybe the reason the husband fights for the kids is the fact jobs are real hard to find and he's only working two days a week and the government handout for three kids seems like a lot of money
So off they go to court to fight for those little pots of gold ... the kids. And in order to win, maybe that slutty wife of his claims he, the spouse/partner cannot be trusted to have those kids because she, wifey, has seen paedo material on his phone before he deleted it and threw the phone in an incinerator
or maybe he or she claims the other parent was abusive to the kids. And perhaps one or more of the kids was coached/threatened to go along with that
Who would want to be the judge? So yes, BS works and the system is abused and the losing parent complains and drives themself and friends/family, appeals courts etc, nuts
What's the solution? There isn't one. Humans are what they are for better or worse. Judges same. Dirty tricks abound. Injustice happens 24/7. It destroys lives. But we're not going to dump the system. It will carry on, maybe tweaked here and there
When male family court judges were required to arbitrate, they were threatened daily by angry men and often angry women
Now women are entering the halls of power, they're required to pass judgement. Which is reasonable, don't you feel, considering women comprise slightly more than 50% of the world's population
Men's complaints to DV courts was that their wife 'abused' them verbally. How many times? They replied well, once when I'd stayed out all night, then another -- year later -- when I said something that annoyed her. But it WAS abuse. It gave me depression. Ask my doctor
Some men claim they were physically abused -- slaps, pinches, even punches. And note -- where are the editorials and firm denunciation by wigged judges deciding the man 'provoked' and 'invited' it the way women were and are blamed. Have you seen the blame heaped online on the Israeli girl who was raped, tortured and murdered last month? It was 'her fault' apparently, for getting off the train at that point (and never mind she lived on campus). It was 'her fault' for walking from the train to campus (was she supposed to sleep in a ditch all night as a way of avoiding any random rapist who might be around?
So if a woman loves a man sufficiently to bear his child, to carry it around in her body for nine months and endure what is often a very painful birthing experience -- is she supposed to surrender that child to the man when he tells the court he'd be the better parent, could provide it greater opportunities, greater lifestyle, etc.? And if he backs it up by claiming the girl he so efficiently disillusioned that she left him is now guilty of 'abuse' of the child, either physically, mentally, emotionally or sexually -- is that not manipulation and abuse of the process? And if his motives are solely financially based insofar as he would rather stick pins in his eyes before he'd pay one cent of child support, or perhaps he feels he's entitled to taxpayer money in the form of govt. child support -- is that not abuse and manipulation of the system? Because we didnt' come down in the last shower and yes -- men are as adept at manipulation and blatant lying as are women
So sure, the system is being gamed every day and we are all losers as result, because some of those 'pawn' kids carry the scars, and very often they become problems for society and once again, society is compelled to devise systems to remedy and repair that -- and again, more manipulation and abuse of the system
Do women approach matters differently to men? Sometimes, not always. Do women entrusted with power and authority abuse their position? As often as men, no doubt. Is that a surprise and if so, why? Once again, women comprise slightly more than half of the world's population
so why not call them 'human' instead of the divisive 'feminists' -- because surely there's a male equivalent for the word 'feminist'? What is it? What was it all those years when women were receiving half men's pay for the same work? What did they call that? When cops refused to intervene in 'domestics' -- what did they call that?
All's fair in love and war. Isn't that the case? Isn't that what we're told? And isn't it 'war' in family courts and DV cases? Why the surprise if women learned how to fight like men?
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