I didn't go through all of the posts here but I get the impression that a lot of people (men in particular) are feeling a trifle trapped.
There's fat Steves and fat Steffs. We're basically one fat race of gluttonous pigs
Ever been down to the local plaza? OMG it's disgusting. Those frikin' things waddling around all over the place munching on their own arms when their burger is gone. Tattooed, nose rings, cascading layers of lard that you can't get around in a three laned thoroughfare.
Let's be honest. Men like an attractive woman and women like men with money, attractiveness is a bonus. That's just nature as it has intended.
You don't see wealthy men in many walks of life choosing an older woman for all of his needs. If he does, it's most likely that he has a younger woman or women on the side.
And most definitely you don't see a young wealthy thin and attractive Steff going for a poor fat Steve. Women will always trade upwards in looks and wealth. That's just nature. I have no problems with that. In fact, I'd be more suspicious of a woman who doesn't do that.
This topic suggests that it's just black and white that people (men in particular I gather) travel abroad to poorer countries for a sex tour.
I'd agree that quite a lot of fat Steve's may do that in their 4 weeks off (if they're lucky enough to even get that that time off nowadays) and then come back and brag to their mates.
Then you have those who genuinly like the lifestyle or they want to stay there for a variety of reasons.
And you then have those who bring them back here.
Of course not many women would bring a poorer man back here, but some do if they're attractive enough.
All different scenarios.
The men that do better from a marriage POV IMO are those who marry closer to their own age and to a woman who is not so over attractive, but still far more attractive than they'd get here.
So pragmatically, it's a good deal on both sides.
Most of the fat Steves that stay there will turn into slim Sams and will be even better catch for their wife...and themselves.iii