aquascoot
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there obviously is a problem but what are we to do?
you need to understand basic human psychology and evolution.
women are a standard deviation to the right in "trait agreeableness".
they are more likely to put up with a difficult person and this would appear to be due to the fact that they have to care for infants. and an infant that is crying all night long is a difficult person and so the mother is biologically wired to "not throw it out the window" . she is more agreeable. and she doesnt want conflict around the baby. so she is less likely to argue with a male , especially when she has an infant. thats just darwinian biology and its deep.
men are less agreeable but they are a standard deviation higher in industriousness and in exploratory behaviour. so men have a biological pre disposition to go out into the world with bravery and to conquer unexplored territory. and men are more sensitive to status. men are more competitive and more likely to want to get to the top of a dominance hierachy (sport, work, earnings, muscles..whatever it is, men want to climb to the top). why?
because women are selective maters and women tend to mate with men who are at the top of status hierachies. women effectively say 'fight it out boys and decide who is at the top and that saves me having to screen all you men and i can just choose the highest status male".
so how should we view domestic violence inside the framework of millions of years of evolution.
well.
men are disagreeable, they wont do what you tell them to do UNLESS they are allowed to explore, be brave, conquer new territory and compete AND they want to be thanked and appreciated for their efforts. men want to be seen as "heroes" for their efforts.
so if you want men to play the game according to a set of rules, we need to make the father figure a heroic figure, we need to make men rewarded for "manning up", we need to celebrate competition and we need to help men climb hierachies.
and that is exactly what it NOT happening in modern society where masculinity is seen as something to be trashed , not given a heroic status at all.
and of course, when you do that to men, most will not climb the narrow road to success like aquascoot, most will become bitter, resentful and nihilistic, they will become selfish entitled little pukes and cry babies and they will act out their revenge. that seems to be what is happening
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