https://www.dailytelegraph.com.au/news/nsw/teacher-charlene-saliba-details-horri...CHARLENE Saliba remembers living in fear.
Ms Saliba, a 26-year-old Sydney primary school teacher, suffered physical and emotional abuse at the hands of NRL footballer Matthew Lodge, and is today speaking out for the first time because she wants the truth to be known.
Until now only a handful of people, including her parents and close friends, knew of Ms Saliba’s true story.
Ms Saliba, who turned down a paid media interview and repeated requests from TV programs, was the victim of a 2015 assault, to which Lodge pleaded guilty and was sentenced to a two-year good behaviour bond without a conviction being recorded.
Lodge, who has returned to the NRL with the Brisbane Broncos after two years out, during which time he was convicted of a violent attack on a New York family, claimed in a Fox League interview last week he had never “hit any women or assaulted any”.
That claim prompted Ms Saliba to come forward.
The Sunday Telegraph has also obtained evidence of Lodge’s violence against her, including police and court documents, and his Facebook messages threatening her life and calling her a “bitch” and “slut” amid declarations of love and pleas for her to return to him.
Ms Saliba said their two-year relationship began in 2013 but soon descended into cycle of domestic violence, including vile verbal abuse, stalking, intimidation and physical attacks that included grabbing her, elbowing her face, smashing her head into a car roof and hitting in her in the face hard enough that she fell to the ground.It started with controlling behaviour, then name-calling, then came the emotional abuse, he started throwing things, physically restraining me, (he) spat in my face, then pushing and shoving me, which then lead to threats on my life,” Ms Saliba said.
“I’ve lived the cycle of domestic abuse. I came out the other side.
“I am one of the lucky ones.”
“I have moved on with the help of my amazing partner and am only speaking because of repeated media requests and to correct what has been said about me.”
Court documents show that on August 20, 2015, police arrested Lodge and charged him with eight domestic violence-related offences against Ms Saliba, including common assault, stalking/intimidation and damaging property.
Police obtained an apprehended violence order on Ms Saliba’s behalf, and in May 2016 he pleaded guilty to one of the charges of common assault in Parramatta Local Court.That charge could only proceed because police had a witness: Lyn Walker, a neighbour who saw Lodge attack Ms Saliba.
The other charges did not proceed because Ms Saliba declined to attend court, but she has not wavered from her account of his behaviour.
“I didn’t speak in court because Matthew was playing (with Wests Tigers) at the time, I knew my story would go public and I was scared of the attention and how it would impact my chance at a normal life after,” Ms Saliba said.
“I just wanted to feel safe. The AVO was in place. I knew he couldn’t do anything to me anymore.
“My self-esteem was battered. The abuser always makes the person feel that’s their fault for the way their acting.“I was very confused even embarrassed and ashamed because I had lost myself in a man and a life I was frightened of. I am educated, successful, I had a blessed upbringing.
“And honestly, despite all he did to me, I didn’t wish to end his career. I knew that it was not going to help me heal or change the past.”
The AVO application lodged by police details eight alleged offences on five days in August 2015.
On August 8, Lodge allegedly reached across from the passenger seat of Ms Saliba’s parked car after an argument, grabbing her hair, ripping out her earring, and slapping her face.
On August 11, Lodge allegedly grabbed Ms Saliba’s throat, forced her back against a towel rail, causing pain, then threw his mobile phone at a wall, leaving a 3cm hole.
Lodge let go of Ms Saliba and then drove away, the police documents say.
On August 14, Lodge was sitting in the driver’s seat of a car when he allegedly grabbed Ms Saliba’s coat “and forcefully pushed her upward causing her head to slam on the roof of the car” and ripping the buttons from her coat.
He allegedly said: “I triple dare you to call the cops, your life won’t end that well.”
On August 18, Lodge allegedly elbowed Ms Saliba on top of her head while they lay in bed, slamming her teeth together.
The AVO application said Lodge apologised. The final incident in their relationship occurred on August 20, 2015, outside Lodge’s then residence at Marayong during an argument.
On that morning Lodge hauled Saliba out of a moving car as she tried to leave his property.
He then grabbed her by the rear collar of her shirt in an attempt to drag her into his house.
He then slapped her in the face and pushed her to the ground. This is the offence to which Lodge pleaded guilty.
Lodge’s neighbour, grandmother Lyn Walker, was watching from her front doorstep and called out: “Let her go.”
Lodge let go of Ms Saliba and then drove away, the police documents say.
Ms Walker urged Ms Saliba to call the police and both women gave statements to Constable Jenah Butler of Blacktown Police.
Ms Walker spoke this week to The Sunday Telegraph.
“There was a lot of yelling and a lot of abuse, verbal abu