Lord Herbert wrote on Feb 22
nd, 2018 at 5:11pm:
The more you give them, pamper them, pay attention to them, coddle them ~ the MORE MORE MORE they want out of you until you begin to go INSAAANE with frustration with them.
Strangely it works the opposite for me. My pets (and sometimes other people's pets) have always been well cared for by me, but with cats I lack that warm, fuzzy feeling and many of their gestures irritate me.
The more I push Ruffy away (gently of course) - the more he wants to slobber all over me and knead his claws into the soft parts of my body. I rarely show him affection only because I don't want to encourage him, but it seems that rejection is attractive for some creatures.
Quote:I fed Gizmo, I watered Gizmo, I put him in his favourite basket in the lounge room, but then he sat up and stared solidly at me for 15 minutes until in a fit of temper I tossed him out of the house.
Never NEVER think that your cats give a rat's arse about you personally ... it has always been what they can get out of you.
I don't have that problem with the cat, but I do experience a similar problem with the magpies. I always have fresh mince for any meat eaters who visit, but a couple of the young magpies are temperamental. I'll throw a neatly rolled ball of meat in the shape of a worm directly into their mouth. They'll stare at me and let it drop. By the third time and it's still being dropped - I become annoyed at the waste and walk away hoping to teach them a lesson. I know what they want. They want me to spend 10 minutes feeding them miniscules amount of mince because they're too lazy to break it up themselves. As there are 7 babies visiting this year - it's too time consuming to spoil them and probably not good for their long term survival.
If I was a cat psychologist - I would say that Gizmo wants more selective attention from you Herbert. Go back through your movements and analyse whether you could have done more for him.
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