Lisa Jones wrote on Dec 20
th, 2017 at 8:09pm:
Sprintcyclist wrote on Dec 20
th, 2017 at 7:47pm:
Lisa Jones wrote on Dec 20
th, 2017 at 5:32pm:
Sprintcyclist wrote on Dec 20
th, 2017 at 5:25pm:
Lisa Jones wrote on Dec 20
th, 2017 at 5:00pm:
miketrees wrote on Dec 20
th, 2017 at 4:52pm:
No Cods I do not have the ability to suck up to sociopaths in the workplace.
I just cant do it.
Its probably going to involve having to treat some other poor person badly to conform to the wishes of the sociopath.
never will.
You guys should be thankful you only work with sociopaths.
Try being married to one.
THEN you'd know about it.
eeeeewwwwwwww, No thank you !!!!
No offence but
once you've survived being married to/escaped from a sociopath.....suddenly other sociopaths who come across in your life are not as difficult/as stressful to manage.
I guess there's a lot to be said for experiential knowledge.
I could well see that .
I have forgiven him, within myself.
He has not apologised, so I cannot forgive him to him.
That does not mean I forget, or I do not take safeguards for myself for the future.
Good.
That's exactly what I did (after receiving much needed support from my friends at Freediver's other political forum) regarding our very own online sociopath Groggy after he spent entire DAYS spamming topics by attacking my poor deceased Christian mum.
And then there's the night Groggy saw fit to spam this entire forum by following me around from topic to topic to post the most vile, misogynistic abuse ever seen on OzPol.
And who could forget the time Groggy spent days posting about how he would celebrate the death of Australians on the basis of which party they voted.
Groggy.
Online sociopath. And junkie cyber multi troll with no life and no job. Nothing.
And guess what.....he's currently hijacking and spamming topics as I type this.
psychopaths and bullies are an interesting phenomenom from an evolutionary perspective.
basicly nature wipes them out.
herd animals (and humans are social animals) will have the alpha at the top. but the alpha , thru generations of evolution, has learnt that if he is too much of an asshole, then 3 betas can easily gang up and rip his throat out.
all social animals show this behaviour where the top animal may establish his authority but he must be benevolent or he is out.
when wolves posture for dominance, the lower wolf will eventually submit and present his throat and the higher wolf will NOT hurt him so as to prove his benevolence.
if you put a big rat with a small rat and they play fight, the big rat lets the little rat win about 1/3 of the fights, just to show his benevolence.
so someone in authority who is not treating those under him well, will not be in authority for long.
we dont have a problem with the boss having a bigger office or a bigger pay packet. humans accept this hierachy. but the boss has to look after those below him. this is the social contract. if he doesnt , he's out.
now if sprint is in an office of 12 guys, then its easy to form an alliance of the majority of those guys and take the alpha down. just ostracize him. go to the pub without him, chat and clown around without him. exclude him. social exclusion is death.
as lisa rightly points out this strategy does not work in a one on one relationship.
if a plumber is bullying his apprentice, if a husband is bullying his wife, if you have no colleagues around you with whom to form an alliance and demolish the bully, then you have a moral obligation to the essence of being itself to cut that relationship.
remove that person from your personal ecosystem.