Jasin wrote on Dec 8
th, 2017 at 1:13pm:
Lisa Jones wrote on Dec 7
th, 2017 at 12:08pm:
Jasin wrote on Dec 6
th, 2017 at 11:58pm:
Have you ever been physically abused in a relationship Lisa Jones?
Duh!
Why didn't you just fight back?
A few reasons....
I was 65 kilos, he was 120 kilos.
He frightened me with multiple threats to myself/my family/my unborn child(ren)....and that fear immobilized me.
He was considerably older than me and was a well known lawyer with a lot of family money.
I wasn't allowed to be anything but barefoot, pregnant and without money. My weekly allowance was zero.
His idea of marital sex was full on rape. It was forced and violent leaving me bruised all over. I couldn't even keep my hair long because he would pull it off. So to stop him from hurting my head I used to cut my hair real short....kinda like a guy's hair style.
I had no say over anything. No rights.....wasn't allowed to have an opinion let alone voice it.
I had no say over pregnancy. Even that was forced. And there's still no criminal term for that in domestic violence.
I wasn't even allowed to vote. He would grab my wrist in polling booths and crush it whilst he filled in my election form.
He had a million dollar life insurance policy on me. He took that out when I got pregnant to his twins.
It was a tough 5 years......only God helped me escape. Towards the end....the final 6 months ....I tried to escape a few times but those attempts almost cost me my life.
Anyway....I finally got out with police and family help and was finally able to access heaps of counselling and support.
My 2nd marriage is THE EXACT OPPOSITE. It is awesome!
Life is good. No.....life is great.
Unfortunately the past tends to rear its ugly head here and there. I'm seriously lucky to be alive.
Most women do NOT escape/survive MIDDLE CLASS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. They usually end up murdered.
I probably should be out there helping other women but the trauma of middle class domestic violence is too close to home. Plus I have a family to take care of and they will always come first...esp now that my widowed mum has passed and I'm relied upon to exercise her matriarchal role (as the eldest daughter in a European family).
These days I'm one TOUGH CHOOK!
YOU DON'T WANNA MESS WITH ME.
Anything else you wanna know about me Jas?