I AM SOOOO TOTALLY OVER NEIGHBOUR DISPUTES!

Strong coffee time here....sigh 

Redmond Neck wrote on Jun 15^th, 2017 at 3:31pm:


Oh....well we're friends with all the neighbours around us.

Good?

NO!

WHY?

They're all fighting with each other and we refuse to take sides and/or participate in the current madness.

Issues with our neighborhood at present revolve around DA's....some even over dog noise....others over retaining walls/fences. Today's big drama was over freaking storm water pipes!

Why can't we all just get along????

Lisa Jones wrote on Jun 15^th, 2017 at 3:39pm:


I agree!

Could be worse,

I had a mate years ago who lived next door to this Croation that threatened to kill him after some stupid argument!

Redmond Neck wrote on Jun 15^th, 2017 at 3:43pm:



Ah....we have the privilege of tolerating an insane Serbian who thinks Slobodan Milošević was a great guy.

Incidentally...he takes to knives etc at around midnight and a ladder to cut into anything green that's growing anywhere near his fence ON ADJOINING PROPERTIES. He climbs over fence lines to make sure he slashes into trees/bushes etc up to a metre inside his neighbour's yards.

The wife of this idiot is only ever seen by us neighbours once/twice a year.

And she never speaks to anyone.

And a few doors up we have our wonderful Arab drug lord and his German Shepherd wolves who bark non bloody stop. Esp at night!

We're too scared to get involved with him.

But the neighbours on either side of him have complained about the barking to the police, local council and the rest of the neighbourhood.

That neighbour dispute is a worry.

Why?

1. The guy apparently keeps a lot of cash etc on site

AND SO

2. Those savage guard dogs are trained to injure/kill "intruders".

One adjoining neighbour has 3 kids under 6.

They're too scared to play in their own back yard on account of the vicious and threatening growling and the dogs leaping up against the 1.8 metre fence.

So as good neighbours....we keep hearing about all this and why we should join in and complain to various authorities.

Awesome stuff hey! 

I seem to have been very lucky in the way of neighbours..god the thought of having anyone that makes life miserable for others  live next door sends shudders through me....and look at those people who collect rubbish...omg......

cods wrote on Jun 15^th, 2017 at 5:07pm:


Yep....I reckon you are lucky Cods.

I keep reminding my neighbours about how privileged we are to live in a great and safe area of Sydney...yadda yadda yadda. I may as well be talking to those vicious German Shepherds.

And the thing that gets me most about all this? Just how miserable my neighbours are. Nobody is happy here.

They're probably ALL on anti depressants I reckon.

(I know of 3 neighbours...they corner me from time to time when I'm trying to do some gardening and so they vent re how troubled they are. They see psychiatrists and take meds because they're not coping with serious issues like who they can trust to leave their assets to etc etc).

I'm so over it. It all got to me today. So I told them off!

I really did.

I wonder what this now means for us lol.

Lisa Jones wrote on Jun 15^th, 2017 at 5:29pm:



you poor thing....they will probably avoid you and think you will miss them...lololol...
I have a funny old duck opposite my place but from the back.. my front is in one street the back in another...I had only moved in by about 2 days when I get a note in the letterbox about my little dog who was old and going blind  and didnt know what the hell was going on..anyway while AI am out he would bark at shadows or people going by as he wasnt used to it....anyway note said something along the lines   do you know you dog barks for hours  no of course you dont you are out arent you?.. no address or anthing...a couple of days leter we are all out the back bringing things in and over she comes...and before she could open her mouth I said  look hes very old  and hes going blind...I can only do my best.. I might add she had a thick accent...
my poor little dog died not long after  but since then she has been over to complain about my cat which she claims howls outside her window.. so hard to believe..
I was telling my new neighbour who started moving in about 4 weeks ago..she has been fixing the place up to suit her needs  and she told me they had already had a visit from her.. when her dad whos doing the work  was putting pavers in the back of his ute  and she came over to complain about the noise....I can only guess she hasnt got anything else to think about....I think it could get worse too   as her son lives with her and he told us he is moving to the country  but she isnt going with him....

Lisa Jones wrote on Jun 15^th, 2017 at 5:29pm:


Just remembered yet another freaking neighbour dispute. This time it's the Italian who refuses to attend to his outta control palm trees. The rubbish/debris that falls off them hits clotheslines all around his property.

The neighbours affected reckon they can't hang their washing out.

Again....we're pushed to join in and complain to Council so as to make a stronger application.

Lisa Jones wrote on Jun 15^th, 2017 at 4:46pm:



Yuck!

Lisa Jones wrote on Jun 15^th, 2017 at 5:47pm:



I dont see what you can do if his tree doesnt affect you.....tell them it doesnt work like that......

the council will have a backlog of these complaints and one on one is about it I think....apparently trees are one of the biggest issues with neighbours..

and so bloody easy to fix.

Gordon wrote on Jun 15^th, 2017 at 5:50pm:



do you reckon hes a navy singlet and boxer shorts type.. plus the VB......ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

I don't have any problems with my neighbours, never have.

However, I was watching something on Foxtel a while ago about "Neighborhood Disputes" and golly gosh, some people who have lived side by side for a decade or more without a problem, suddenly go feral and start shooting, as in MURDER, over something as minor as a kid constantly bouncing a ball on the wall ... annoying, which evolved into something far more sinister. Kid Ok but Dad shot dead.   Only in America. 

cods wrote on Jun 15^th, 2017 at 5:54pm:


My gram-gram who was a woman of great integrity, wealth and taste would simply say with her plum in the mouth accent, what a ghastly man.

cods wrote on Jun 15^th, 2017 at 5:48pm:


I think you're right Cods.

That's exactly what's been happening here.

I've tried so hard for so long to overlook the neighbourhood issues surrounding me. I've tried to be the peace maker....the good neighbour who shares her flowers and veges and fruit....hoping it might.....just might make a bloody difference. I'm buggered.

Today that all stopped.

Why?

Well....we've hit an all time low here. Today AVOs were threatened ( our 2 neighbours across the road ).

Reason? I honestly don't know. Yet.

But I'm pretty sure that will change by tomorrow.

Anyway.....apologies to all for venting. I'm sure others have far worse experiences than me.

Please feel free to share.

Gee, I wonder if you are the problem in that sleaze bag apartment building you are pretending is a 'neighbourhood?'

Vic, what say ye?  You, Mr Hicks?

I have great neighbours.
They let me walk the dogs through their yards - no need for fences around here.
I can pick fruit off anyone's trees.
Always helpful neighbours.
Quiet street except for Holiday periods when 'visitors' come to take a look at the water views and go for walks along the water edges.

Ahhh.
But of course, I don't live in a 'city' - that's why 

lisa my dear   you must watch that new show on 7  called the Angriest...people caught on mobiles being really angry... ... its hilarious for the most part and it will show you how to deal with pain in the bum neighbours....

the funniest one tonight was about a guy in America.. [where else]  who wanted to run for the local council   he told the story himself...it was a hoot...he had to be nominated...a bit like PA  if you like.. but they dont have to have the speech.. anyway he organises a meet and greet so he can make a speech to win them over to nominate him.. well it all went pear shaped right from the start his speech really fired him up!  he got so carried away  he ended up like an angry union rabble rouser....punching the air angry face.. he didnt understand what happened to him  he just lost it completely.....but the person giving a sort of verdict on what makes people angry...said 

people want someone who is incontrol... not someone who is incontinent..

honestly if you can see it on the web check it out I am still laughing...at him 

he was a good sport about though  reckons they show the film in Universities teaching them how not to make a speech......lol

tell hubby it was nearly all men doing their banana ..

oh your chockos are divine   dont you dare give them to them nasty neighbours..

Aussie wrote on Jun 15^th, 2017 at 4:12pm:

Lisa isn't hurting anyone   

cods wrote on Jun 15^th, 2017 at 10:01pm:


OK, does this work for you?
https://tinyurl.com/y7olmt5j

Dear Lisa,
you should move to more permanent residence -

somewhere near Point Piper would be better.

Gordon wrote on Jun 15^th, 2017 at 9:58pm:


No, just Holidayers - as holidays are even in winter, just like the recent Queens Birthday holiday (except for Republicans who should have been still working  ).

Of course, we do have the 'bad eggs', but unlike most unsavoury places like the Capital Cities, Industrial Cities and Cosmo Cities - they are a 'minority' here and are the ones hiding behind their curtains in fear.

Yes Ye Grappler.
I must say that 'that Australia' still does exist.
But you find it in Rural areas and Coastal (non-Apartment rise) towns.
Australia was 'originally' basing its 'culture' on the Rural/Country/Coastal ...basically - the 'natural' setting.

But over time, the 'City' citizens and their culture have 'usurped' Australian culture and hence why their grotty way of existence infests everywhere.

I knew that City culture was taking over, when the newspapers started printing the word "Jail" rather than the traditional "Gaol".

The best things in life a free and I do well to help others, but not everyone - sometimes someone doesn't look quite good enough to help and I just drive by saying to myself "they obviously deserved that misfortune".

I have drug dealers who replace drug dealers who replace people associated with drug dealers in my neighbourhood (same house). Hopefully, I get a better quality of neighbour this time around.

Gordon wrote on Jun 18^th, 2017 at 10:11am:


Ah. A VERY IMPORTANT QUESTION!

Why?

It's a major reason behind why neighbours fight.

Lisa Jones wrote on Jun 20^th, 2017 at 6:22am:


My sister is the same - she has an immaculate yard, immaculate house, clean car etc... across the road the grass is three feet high and there are dead cars in it somewhere..... the house over there looks a wreck and the inmates (sic) come and go between stints in The Big House.... few seem to last their rental bond period without leaving one way or another.

Half houso, half private area....

Housos are beauties.. the sister got the next door one a job at Woolies - and she stole from them....  (face palms)....

I haven't spoken to my fat, lazy bastard of a neighbour in years. When he first purchased that house I politely told him he was noisy, carrying on til all hours of the night and early morning and nothing changed. So I spoke with him again. Again, nothing changed. Then I started calling the police every time I couldn't sleep because of the noise. Still, nothing changed. Then his twin daughters began primary school and he and his fat wife had to grow up and become adults to get the girls to school on time. Pretty quiet over there now but we still don't speak.

Redmond Neck wrote on Jun 15^th, 2017 at 3:43pm:


I can believe it.

Not all cultures are the same, and in some parts of the world a culture of violence is the norm.

A big Croat kept coming into my section of the workplace to talk to a fellow Croat, and was distracting him from his work, and so I told him to bugger off back to his own section and keep away. He threatened to kill me.

About a month later he was on the Sydney evening news for having shot and killed a young Serb kid outside some venue in Strathfield with a mate of his in a drive-by.

Ahhh ... the Good Old days!

Lisa Jones wrote on Jun 15^th, 2017 at 4:29pm:


Yugoslavs again.

Tell me about them.

They come from a savage and barbarian background where violence and threats of violence is their macho way of dealing with their fellow-Yugoslavs. It's a Slavic trait that characterises them.

Neferti wrote on Jun 15^th, 2017 at 5:58pm:


Negroes?

Why am I not surprised?

Have you ever had to put up with some kid who bounces a basket ball on his concrete driveway hour after hour while you're trying to concentrate on a book ... have a conversation with a visitor ... watch TV ... have an afternoon nap ... sit down to enjoy a meal you've cooked ... shag a girlfriend ... etc etc ... ?

No?

You should try it some time.

bounce ... bounce ... bounce ... bounce ....

Just up the road from me where I was renting a room in Sydney's Enmore, another room-renter stabbed a fellow lodger to death for persistently having his radio on loud despite his protests. I was totally on the side of the bloke who finally was driven mad by the self-centred prick who only considered his own needs and comforts.

AiA wrote on Jun 20^th, 2017 at 11:12pm:


Fat Italians?

WHY am I not surprised?

Lord Herbert wrote on Jun 21^st, 2017 at 7:03am:


Ahh...so you know our neighbour

cods wrote on Jun 21^st, 2017 at 7:02pm:


Solar panels might be environmentally friendly but they can also be very neighbour unfriendly.

From what I was told today during afternoon tea :

One of our neighbours who recently built a new home (it's one of those mansions that will take forever to keep clean) placed a network of solar panels on the section of his roof which could catch the most sun (very impt esp during winter time).

Enter the dastardly neighbour next door.

The next door neighbours are presently conducting extensive 2nd storey renovations to their existing home. It's now apparent that these renovations will block the sun for the solar panels of the newly built house (ie the mansion) next door.

Enter the greedy lawyers.

Exit the peace in the neighbourhood.   

cods wrote on Jun 22^nd, 2017 at 8:41am:


All good points.

I was thinking about all this last night....I'm going to try (hubby doesn't know this yet and I'm only thinking about it at this stage anyway) and see if both parties are prepared to explore an alternative to litigation.

So anyway...I'm thinking of selling the idea that dispute resolution options are far cheaper AND LESS STRESSFUL. Why? Stress is what's driving all this current drama and it's slowly affecting surrounding neighbours. Very soon we'll be too scared to wave to certain neighbours as it MIGHT be construed as a sign of loyalty to 1 side etc.

Ah....forgot to mention...our Council is apparently not getting involved.

Perhaps I ought to do the same....I don't know.

I just hate seeing nice people stressed out and fighting. It sets a very negative environment for both them and everyone else around them.

Re the term "environment"....I do think we ought to start seriously considering its SOCIAL definition/implication.

Having good neighbours is gold.

By 'good' it doesn't mean you're friends, or even that you know them to speak to, but just because they're not disruptive in any way.

I'm now surrounded by all of five perfect neighbours ... something of a record in my experience. All are aging Australians except for two young marrieds of Greek background.

If I was surrounded by Greeks, Italians, Arabs, and Indians it would be a Hell on Earth because of the noise they would be making with loud talking, 'muscle cars', barking American Pit Bull Terriers (or similar), overly sociable and hail-fellow-well-met, etc.

John Smith here knows 50 of his neighbours by their first name .....   

Lord Herbert wrote on Jun 22^nd, 2017 at 9:41am:


That's because he lives with all 50 of them in a bogan Aboriginal Housing unit. 

Lisa Jones wrote on Jun 21^st, 2017 at 6:50pm:



Solar panels?

WHY am I not surprised ....

Lord Herbert wrote on Jun 22^nd, 2017 at 9:57am:



he could be a stripper   his fantasy is to be a porn star 

cods wrote on Jun 22^nd, 2017 at 10:01am:




John hasn't been here lately.

He's probably in mourning because the government is cracking down on ethnics who hide their wealth as undeclared investment properties back in Italy, Greece, and Lebanon.

Lisa Jones wrote on Jun 22^nd, 2017 at 9:45am:


Not now????? Is that because the affected neighbour did not object before Council approved the extension??????  Without knowing more of the circumstances, this situation sounds legally very messy.

Black Orchid wrote on Jun 22^nd, 2017 at 10:16am:


We're soul-mates.

I had an Italian grandma (age around 65) who used to do home-laundry with a washing machine and clothes-line in the backyard which necessitated her going down the backyard every hour or so throughout the day - every day.

And without fail she would deviate to look over my fence to button-hole me for endless inane conversations no matter what I was doing and whether I had visitors sitting in the backyard with me or not.

These 'conversations' were 99% in the nature of personal questions ~ something so stereotypical of the ethnic mentality that still hasn't emerged from their village culture.

Multiculturalism.

After an heroic three or four years of this during which time I was polite and 'friendly' - I'd finally had enough - and walked into the house the next time she called out to me.

From that day on I was the bastardo!

I came back from work once and scattered all around the backdoor were around 50 pebbles from her drive-way, no doubt thrown there by her granddaughter.

And then her granddaughter's Italian boyfriend tried to push my shed over that was against our dividing fence.

And all the while I had never said a wrong word to her.

It was simply a clash of cultures with a bit of poor character on their part thrown in.

Black Orchid wrote on Jun 22^nd, 2017 at 2:07pm:


Wonderful.

I'll bear that in mind.

link

Black Orchid wrote on Jun 22^nd, 2017 at 2:15pm:




Maybe they know what you're like

Lord Herbert wrote on Jun 22^nd, 2017 at 1:25pm:



that was a few years back I am sure  by the sound of you today  you would not hesitate to push her over letalone the shed..lololol...

I have never had one that bad thank god...I lived in a block of flats   only 7 all told  but enough to become a pain   one girl  would wait for you to come home and be on the door step you couldnt not answer the door because she had watched you come in....it started off with her being invited in   but after a few months of it,  we thought keep her outside at all costs....it all becomes  very tense making and awkward....I hated it.....I really dislike things that make ME change and be come irritable or mean..... its the same on here....I really have to get out and mix with nice people....

Prime Minister for Canyons wrote on Jun 22^nd, 2017 at 2:22pm:



what was that called for?? 

cods wrote on Jun 22^nd, 2017 at 2:30pm:


Luckily I don't use sugar. My place has good privacy thru good design and screening plants, but I'm thinking I want space, chickens.

I'm doing a recce next week to a few locations. 

cods wrote on Jun 22^nd, 2017 at 2:31pm:




So my post seems uncalled for, but a post basically giving it to your foreign neighbours, well thats perfectly acceptable.

The post you quoted when you said what was that called for.


Are you smacking mental or something.

Lord Herbert wrote on Jun 22^nd, 2017 at 3:11pm:



No. Some people just don't find casual racism acceptable.

You should be used to protests by now, Herbie?

Your trolling fan club has arrived Herb   

Lord Herbert wrote on Jun 22^nd, 2017 at 3:11pm:


I wouldnt know about that   and yes you are right...IGNORE

something about some morons

have you noticed how they cling together say the same inane things  pumping each other up to be just blindsideingly RUDE.

Black Orchid wrote on Jun 22^nd, 2017 at 4:22pm:




That was the sound of this thread hitting the wall at high speed because the likes of cods wants to go dancing with Bojack for post after post after post on the theme of ad hominem to the exclusion of anything worth reading here.