Gordon wrote on Apr 21
st, 2017 at 8:46am:
Raven wrote on Apr 21
st, 2017 at 12:05am:
So you don't see anything wrong with a young child being treated the way he was? It's fine to treat a kid like that if they are criminals?
The guards at the facility should not have to accept having shittt piss and spit chucked at them.
The guards are just the people at the end of the line having to deal with this kid.
it is a paradoxical situation.
we need to have strong personal boundaries, so we do not accept these behaviours.
for example if a horse bit me, this is unacceptable and must be corrected.
BUT
we need to be emotionally mastered or we will make the problem worse.
for example if a horse bit me and i got really mad and struck it with a whip, it has learnt nothing.
what to do.
from a position of being a superior being and having mastered your emotions, you correct a behaviour by making
"the right thing easy and the wrong thing hard" and you do it without a shred of anger or revenge.
so i would get a horse that bit and immediately put it to work, i would halter it to the bcak of a quad bike and make it trot around for 30 minutes . the penny will drop and the behaviour is extinguished . if you whip it, it may well escalate to a kick next time as it now sees you as an enemy
i will gaurantee it will not bite again.
for these young inmates , i would act in a similar way.
i would (unemotionally) attach them to the back of a quad bike and make them jog in the hot sun for , say, an hour.
if they repeat the behaviour, the lesson is retaught.
it will not take long for the penny to drop.
if i dont want to do this unpleasant work, i must act in accoradance with my superiors.
now we can all be friends and synergise and become teammates. (just like a horse that is taught obedience can become a great partner).
i call this constructing a win/win.
violence and anger construct a lose/lose