aquascoot wrote on Apr 12
th, 2017 at 9:23am:
mothra wrote on Apr 12
th, 2017 at 9:11am:
aquascoot wrote on Apr 12
th, 2017 at 9:08am:
there is a way to help prevent this.
what i have found amongst my daughters friends is that the girls who are anxious or slightly depressed will tend to attract an angry boy.
i cant comment on the specifics, but it seems to be a pattern and the best solution , as i drummed into my girls , is to make yourself feel strong powerful and resilient and have very firm personal boundaries.
the best way forward with this (for girls)is to
eat great food
hit the gym
surround yourself with people in high vibration energy.
kids are like sponges and will soak up and assume the "frame" of those they associate with.
i wouldnt want my girls watching negative and anxiety producing stuff in the mainstream media or hanging out with other girls who are down, negative, fearful or anxious.
it is up to mothers and fathers to be confident, strong, powerful and pass on this vibe. my gut feeling is that many of the people involved in treating domestic violence are fearful , anxious, tragic, despairing, despondent, hopeless, frightened and miserable.
these emotions are NOT the emotions to transfer onto a girl to build her resilience. better to spend your time in the presence of people who are crushing it in life and oozing awesomeness then to spend your time with hand wringers and "weak sauce' counsellors
Good-o. Blame the victim. Brilliant.
not at all,
good preparation prevents poor outcomes.
so we "prepare' young girls properly.
if someone jumps on a horse and gets hurt and i say that you need to prepare properly for such an event, am i "blaming the victim"?
if a young girl is going to jump into a relationship and i say you need to prepare yourself properly, this is not blaming the victim, this is trying to prevent a bad outcome.
gawd aqua.. if only life was that simple..
how can you compare a person to a horse.....
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no one just jumps on a horse...that horse has had a fair bit of training.......
I am talking about the male human.. some have had no training whatever on dealing with the opposite sex....in a lot of cases their dad is not a good role model...
I believe DV is getting worse....and I do believe more and more children are falling through the cracks of school and employment.....
maybe mothra is correct more reporting and more places to go with your problems....however school doesnt change all that much....and many kids are still leaving school illiterate....something is going on....these kids end up angry and frustrated...they fall into bad habits and bad company..their parents usually gave up with them when they reached 14....its the same with girls.... its all too hard....do we look in our youth hostels where these kids end up??... do we have any idea how many are in these places ... how many are taken from their homes because of the violence..
no we dont...
in fact we have more stats on asylum seekers than we do whats going on under our noses..
heres a good one.. on how to fix this..
http://www.dailytelegraph.com.au/rendezview/domestic-violence-stop-demonising-ou...WHERE is the credible evidence to show that labelling three-year-old boys “sexist” and denying children tales of Cinderella and Snow White will prevent domestic violence?
It doesn’t exist. The whole crackpot notion defies common sense and the reality lived by Australian parents.
And yet every government in this country has united around a destructive evidence-free myth that demonises little boys, patronises little girls, and insults families.
The $30 million Stop it at the Start campaign claims that “hidden meanings” in language such as “boys will be boys” and “man up” will lead to domestic violence.
The essential insult which underpins the campaign is that Australian parents are so burdened with “unconscious bias” that they are teaching their sons to be wife-bashers and their daughters to be docile victims, and that we all need to be re-educated.
It is just the latest taxpayer-funded attempt by gender-bending social engineers to control what we say and how we think, using the excuse of “preventing domestic violence”.
The theory is that “gender stereotypes” lead to domestic violence. But there is no proof.
It’s all part of the craziness we see in Victorian schools, where fairytales are under attack for reinforcing “gender norms”, under the Andrews government’s own domestic violence prevention program “Respectful Relationships”.
Our children are being harassed by gullible teachers who have been programmed by weirdo academics, aided and abetted by socialist politicians, into dictating that boys can’t be boys and girls can’t be girls.
Justifying this feminist extremism as a social good is akin to the pretence that the “safe schools” sexual indoctrination program stops bullying.
It’s hard enough being a boy in schools in which male teachers have been all but driven out, in which women dominate, teaching styles cater to girls, and in which all the fun has been taken out of the playground
ye gods....we have gone stark raving mad...