aquascoot
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The patriachy is how things are supposed to function.
Men , in the real world (not the mass media hollywood version) eventually come to discover that they cant have a successful relationship with a woman if they put her first. This isnt some "ra, ra, ra men" statement. I would prefer to put the woman first , but there is a deep resentment that grows in a woman when a man puts her first. A man has to have a mission he has to have a north star. And this purpose cannot be "his woman".
A woman, on the other hand , should put her man first. He will respond well to this and it is the basis of a great relationship.
Women , at their core, dont want to win. they want to be with a winner.
A needy guy, a clingy guy, a guy who does not have firm personal boundaries is garbage to a woman.
a woman will "sh*t test' a man to see if he is the real deal. She will try bratty behaviour or bitchy behaviour and she will expect her man to 'correct this behaviour". She will resent him if he doesnt. She will gain attraction by his firm discipline of this emotional behaviour and she will get aroused. All "real" men know this. women will often be very bratty and very bitchy as part of their foreplay and if they sense a 'weak ' male...he is treated with disdain.
So , to recap. men are natural leaders. women look to men as emotional anchors men who try to be an emotional tampon to a woman, who try to be her "girlfriend" are sewing the seeds of a catastrophe. men should stay on their mission (which is to lead our patriachal society) and let women enjoy their feminine energy. Most angry women, most bitter women, are that way because they dont have that strong masculine energy to ground them.
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