Valkie wrote on Jul 25
th, 2016 at 1:43pm:
The whole problem is not how we are similar to animals, be them horses or dogs.
It is not how we chastise of teach our children either.
Its about how we, as an animal, treat our children.
Humans are far far more complex beings than these simple herd or pack animals, we are both gregarious and territorial and this sets up a conflict in our minds from the start.
We need human interaction, but we also want total control.
For too long now we are ignoring our children, or only thinking about them when they cause us angst.
Think about it.
The child is nurtured and pampered until the maternity leave runs out.
Then the child is passed from one institution to another, fobbed off and staved of nurturing love by parents who are too busy, too self centered and too focused on being successful to waste time being with their children.
From Pre-school, to school, day care and holiday care, children see their parents only when the parents find the time, which is rare.
The children, when home strive for acceptance, which is not forthcoming from over tired and busy parents, so they immerse themselves in the web or games and are exposed to more and more antisocial activities as a result.
In this electronic media, violence is the norm, although the pain of actually being part of the violence does not exist, because the game can be simply reset.
There are no bruises, no cuts and no broken bones, so they become desensitized to the violence.
They do not understand the repercussions which result from violence and antisocial behavior.
It is now at the stage when even children who are given the vital nurturing are being contaminated by those who have not this vital human need.
The contamination is propagated by the need for power, which comes from the antisocial behavior and any who rebel are ostracized and are subjected to stalking and trolling to subjugate or punish the offenders.
There are even examples of this sick behavior in this forum where some, taking offence or those who feel the need to dominate or feel superior, will immediately attack any they feel threatened by.
To actually face the threat in real life is terrifying to this type of person, they only feel powerful from the anonymity of the computer, where they feel safe.
But occasionally, they individual breaks free from the computer and being desensitized to the violence and lacking their parental guidance and love, take out their frustrations on society and others with no bounds.
Basically becoming almost sociopaths in nature.
How do we fix this problem.
Perhaps Love, nurturing, getting the children into the world of normal people who play and strive.
Get them into the bush and into dangerous but controlled environments where they can see that the world does bite and that you cannot reset.
Or perhaps the world is broken and we are destined to run down this path of self destruction.
thats a very good post valkie and a very good "contribution".
i like to keep everything very simple and break it down into very bite sized pieces.
sure, you are correct that humans are far more complex then dogs, but most parents cant even train a dog (see how many are just dumped becuase the parents cant get them to stop barking or digging). If you cant train a simple puppy, god help you with a child.
I break it down into tiny steps and 1 %ers.
Everyone, and i do mean everyone is either getting a little better or a little worse every day.
The default is always failure and the default is that you will get a little worse every day.
when i look at my accountant or my dentist , then each time i see him he just looks a bit more beaten down, a bit more numbed down.
If you dont get into an upward spiral, then you will get into a downward spiral and everything you do, eat, think etc will either feed the up or the down. there is no such thing as a neutral input.
By the way, your writing down of your post is exactly what i encourage as part of neuro linguistic programming. the act of writing it down creates new pathways and clarifies otherwise chaotic thoughts.
Whilst a contribution, the biggest beneficiary is the contributor himself (this is what we mean by you get back more then you give).
many posters on here are incapable of more then a one or two line, usually angry and negative post.
They give little, they get little, they grow little, they become little, they remain little.
We call this "small minded".
there is another saying for you Valkie which is true...the rich get rich and the poor get poorer.
If you devote some time to good food, exercise, meditation and good reading, then you just become better and better in every area and live in abundance.
If you devote yourself to physical laziness, spicey and sugary food, Durr state activities like tv and computer games, then you just become worse and worse and live in scarcity.
Cheers
a good book to read is "the shallows, how the internet is changing the way we think"
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