Agnes wrote on Apr 17
th, 2015 at 10:40pm:
Mutual respect should be taught by parents, but it will take a long time before the issue of DV is taken seriously by the law and society, you hear it all the time women saying she drove him to it, which essentially excuses the man- if women cant even get her own gender to stand with her then what hope is there- in many cases the female does annoy the living hell out of her partner thinking her gender protects her from any repercussions that may come her way were she born man in the same situation. So some fem. push the issue to the limit and then he snaps- yes its true, There are also men who just enjoy feeling the power of beating someone defenseless and you will also find they also abuse children. They cannot face up to a man- deep down they are cowardly bullies. Most women have known some form of violence from men, verbal and physical. Until mutual respect is taught in the home and at school- this problem will never go away.
There is no society in the world where women are truly free, the male is not born free by virtue of being born a man either- he is bound by a form of slavery that the female ( in a perfect society ) isnt-and many times he doesn't want to nor can he live up to the restraints placed on him..living the dream, wife child and home is a huge burden that is mostly carried by the male- he is expected to perform get on in the world and never question his role-
ag.. all we do is make more and more excuses....for BAD....
do we teach males to respect females of EVERY AGE???
do we teach females to EXPECT respect from males of ALL AGES????
of course we dont lets just teach them to BLAME someone or something else...
to give respect earns respect...
we seem to have turned a blind eye to what starts off as the usual bully boy stuff...
and I WANT IT and I WANT IT "NOW" syndrome
that appears to have turned into a
if I cant have you no one else will have you syndrome...
I teach my grandkids.. that life will have lots of disappointments in it.. get used to it....we soon forget what is was all about...try to look on it as the best thing that could have happened...
jealousy and control seem to have taken over a huge amount of peoples lives...they are not happy even if they are in possession...
there is no ONE answer....but I do believe we should all be made to answer for the choices we make.. and that starts at a very young age...what is the point of a child having counselling without the parents also.. they are the ones in charge and are usually part of the cause...yet they go about their business as if someone else will solve their problem child..
someone worked out "smacking children doesnt work"..
has someone worked out.. that NOT SMACKING THEM DOESNT WORK EITHER????
are we making it easier for children of all ages to do the wrong thing over and over?...
Society has changed and quick /instant gratification seems to be the way it is now, for the majority- society do turn a blind eye to the social degradedation of women and it has been normalised, even by women themselves, through media and internet- porn and sexually negatively charged video clips- young pp quickly learn/think that is how society is, and if that is the only info that is being fed to them, no one is telling them that "no that is not really how men should treat or talk about women" then that narrative will stick and never be challenged unless those who clearly see the wrong are able to speak out and correct and challenge these ideas, 2 sides of a coin must be presented to enable pp to decide which one they want to internalise and make a considered opinion right or worng. That is how the narrative becomes entrenched, bit by bit, respect is lost incrementally and insidiously- the whole of society see's it as an inevitable change because everyone believes that they , as individuals, cant make any difference by speaking up and challenging the declining moral standard, and it does come down to just that, that they are bit one lost voice. Once you dehumanise anyone, male or female , that is the beginning of the end. Majority of pp are sheep, they do as others do and say- so to easy for this to happen. I think your right about the smack thing, unless a parent is clearly identified as a child abuser then the state should stay out of the temptation to legislate the way we parent, parenting is a natural instinct. Take away a parents right to parent is part of the moral decline that leads to abuse and disrespect and disregard of the way females are treated in a our society because it teaches kids that society is consequence free- until they find out for themselves and land in jail or worse.
The next step up from being verbally violent is physical violence- so in this case words matter- a violent verbal abuser is only a heart beat away from becoming a physical abuser/ killer.
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