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Re: Christmas Fare
Reply #75 - Dec 14^th, 2015 at 2:03pm

cods wrote on Dec 13^th, 2015 at 7:54am:

Black Orchid wrote on Dec 12^th, 2015 at 3:15pm:

Christmas is for family and friends. Getting together with those we love and may not see often enough during the year.

It doesn't matter if it is a small or large gathering. Just catching up is enough

sadly not everyone thinks like that...they avoid their family even then...some folks spend their whole life bearing a grudge...dunno what they get out of it..

more wrinkles I think.

I can understand people avoiding their extended families . I have Christmas with my sons, friends and even the ex is invited but if I saw my sister around Christmas I would ram the Christmas tree .................... you get the picture Grin

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Reply #76 - Dec 14^th, 2015 at 4:37pm

Black Orchid wrote on Dec 14^th, 2015 at 2:03pm:

cods wrote on Dec 13^th, 2015 at 7:54am:

Black Orchid wrote on Dec 12^th, 2015 at 3:15pm:

Christmas is for family and friends. Getting together with those we love and may not see often enough during the year.

It doesn't matter if it is a small or large gathering. Just catching up is enough

sadly not everyone thinks like that...they avoid their family even then...some folks spend their whole life bearing a grudge...dunno what they get out of it..

more wrinkles I think.

I can understand people avoiding their extended families . I have Christmas with my sons, friends and even the ex is invited but if I saw my sister around Christmas I would ram the Christmas tree .................... you get the picture Grin

not sure how you can make judgement on people that you don't even know cods, but hey, good for you

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Black Orchid Moderator Offline Posts: 5798 Gender:	Re: Christmas Fare Reply #77 - Dec 14^th, 2015 at 7:00pm Tis the season to be jolly GROAN I am so NOT into Christmas this year though.
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Reply #78 - Dec 14^th, 2015 at 10:44pm

Black Orchid wrote on Dec 14^th, 2015 at 2:03pm:

cods wrote on Dec 13^th, 2015 at 7:54am:

Black Orchid wrote on Dec 12^th, 2015 at 3:15pm:

Christmas is for family and friends. Getting together with those we love and may not see often enough during the year.

It doesn't matter if it is a small or large gathering. Just catching up is enough

sadly not everyone thinks like that...they avoid their family even then...some folks spend their whole life bearing a grudge...dunno what they get out of it..

more wrinkles I think.

I can understand people avoiding their extended families . I have Christmas with my sons, friends and even the ex is invited but if I saw my sister around Christmas I would ram the Christmas tree .................... you get the picture Grin

it must have been some crisis... and I am sad to hear that I never had a sister..but I do all I can to get my girls to see their sisters point of view when something causes trouble...I dont know if it works but they are still there for each other...when the chips are down....

you know I find it hard that people cannot put some thing that happened a long time ago.. to rest..

I know it sounds easy peasy and I know it isnt....but its bad enough when you lose someone to death and there is now going back....but to keep up something that keeps not just you and you and you sister but her children and your children apart...

I dont understand that I really dont...

you know what they say about forgiveness BO its divine....

just thinking Christmas is the time to do all that sometimes... Sad

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Black Orchid Moderator Offline Posts: 5798 Gender:	Re: Christmas Fare Reply #79 - Dec 15^th, 2015 at 10:33am Cods, some people are just plain toxic and for your own well being (and that of those you love) you just have to cut them loose. Christmas is a time to spend with those we love, if we can, and there is no golden rule that stipulates who we should or should not love. There is no magic Christmas cure.
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Reply #80 - Dec 15^th, 2015 at 5:03pm

Black Orchid wrote on Dec 15^th, 2015 at 10:33am:

Cods, some people are just plain toxic and for your own well being (and that of those you love) you just have to cut them loose.

Christmas is a time to spend with those we love, if we can, and there is no golden rule that stipulates who we should or should not love.

There is no magic Christmas cure.

We will always love our family, even when we are angry, sometimes we are disillusioned and dissapointed, we can just take some time out for how ever long we need to re group and think- cutting out family is so isolating and final. The possibilty they may die always exist's, and who want's to live with that kind of regret for the rest of your life.?

When someone appears toxic/angry, it just means we don't understand enough about that person. Communication. Christmas is supposed to be a time for family and gathering's but the reality exist's, families do fued and it can go on for a long time. I get over arguement's quickly others stew on it for years- Christmas is not a magic cure , but you can wish them the best and say Happy Christmas.

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Reply #81 - Dec 15^th, 2015 at 6:57pm

If you are talking about 'our' children, I agree. I would always support mine absolutely and would go to Hell and back for them. Always.

As for siblings/friends etc. There is no rule that says we have to 'love' them til the end of time. If someone wrongs you again and again and again you would have to be silly to keep backing up for more.

If there is dead wood in your life that constantly clobbers you. Cut it off.

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Reply #82 - Dec 15^th, 2015 at 7:14pm

Black Orchid wrote on Dec 15^th, 2015 at 6:57pm:

If you are talking about 'our' children, I agree. I would always support mine absolutely and would go to Hell and back for them. Always.

As for siblings/friends etc. There is no rule that says we have to 'love' them til the end of time. If someone wrongs you again and again and again you would have to be silly to keep backing up for more.

If there is dead wood in your life that constantly clobbers you. Cut it off.

Good in theory, I am currently in a state of flux with 1 of my sisters, never did I ever think this would or could ever happen to me/us. Yes there was initial anger of course and yes I said I would never speak to her ever again. I saw a picture of her the other day and I was overwhelmed with emotion, this sister whom I thought I had such grievance with after years of being very close. I do love her and nothing will change that, and I regret every day we do not talk- if there was a way back I would take it, because life is too short. I would never cut anyone out. I just don't have the heart.

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Black Orchid Moderator Offline Posts: 5798 Gender:	Re: Christmas Fare Reply #83 - Dec 15^th, 2015 at 7:37pm I don't hate my sister, I don't believe in hate it's too negative an emotion, but she is the bane of my life. If you have feelings for yours I hope you can work things out with her.
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Reply #85 - Dec 18^th, 2015 at 5:23pm

BlueBeard wrote on Dec 9^th, 2015 at 8:10pm:

we usually make a Chocolate Ripple - big round donut looking one

but this year my daughter is volunteering to make "individual" ones in a small bowls

sounds good and that's one less thing I we have to do

I love a Chocolate Ripple cake and make them occasionally. Not sure how to do individual ones that still look good though as the biscuits are biggish. Perhaps you can share?

I might have to experiment with this later on.

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Reply #86 - Dec 21^st, 2015 at 11:34am

Black Orchid wrote on Dec 18^th, 2015 at 5:23pm:

BlueBeard wrote on Dec 9^th, 2015 at 8:10pm:

we usually make a Chocolate Ripple - big round donut looking one

but this year my daughter is volunteering to make "individual" ones in a small bowls

sounds good and that's one less thing I we have to do

I love a Chocolate Ripple cake and make them occasionally. Not sure how to do individual ones that still look good though as the biscuits are biggish. Perhaps you can share?

I might have to experiment with this later on.

shouldn't be too hard - just a few biscuits in a small bowl with cream.. i'll take a pic if I remember

I'm thinking of doing most of the cooking in one hit as the family wont be around till late xmas day then on boxing day go down to mums - so if I do 2 chickens and 2 lambs on the webber on xmas day we can have cold sliced meat for meals - or something like that

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BlueBeard Senior Member Offline Australian Politics Posts: 387 Gender:	Re: Christmas Fare Reply #87 - Dec 21^st, 2015 at 11:40am xmas at the inlaws when it becomes about 2 people when it becomes about money and who can out do each other when it becomes about a few people bullying the rest or making them feel like outcasts every xmas when it comes about trying to control people and what they should think then bugger it later losers...
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Black Orchid Moderator Offline Posts: 5798 Gender:	Re: Christmas Fare Reply #88 - Dec 22^nd, 2015 at 4:46pm I agree
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Black Orchid Moderator Offline Posts: 5798 Gender:	Re: Christmas Fare Reply #89 - Dec 22^nd, 2015 at 4:51pm Well I made this today. A frozen dessert for a hot Christmas Day. If it looks ok after I upend it I will take pics ... if I remember. Ed obviously used food colouring in his green and red layers. I don't like food colouring so mine is probably more anaemic than his. Hopefully it will taste just as good though.
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