cods wrote on Sep 6^th, 2014 at 8:29am:


It's a tragedy in today's world that people think of "love" as about liking someone or about a feeling, rather than what you do for someone that makes them feel a certain way.

I think the tragic, one-dimensional view of love as about your feelings and about liking someone that prevails in today's society is due to the loss of old-fashioned values like honour, faith and loyalty.

Faith - you have to believe in what you're doing.

Honour - you must know what you need to do and do it, despite the risks or the costs involved, despite what you know you might lose. It's like a soldier dying for his country. He knows he might die if he charges forward with his bayonet and faces enemy fire. But he also knows that if he doesn't do his job, the army he is part of might be defeated. If every soldier ran in the face of danger, the battle will be lost. In life and in "love," a person must know what they need to do and do it.

Loyalty - stick to those you care about and don't waver. Honour and cherish them and they will honour and cherish you. If you stumble and fall, keep going back. Don't take someone else's weakness or failure as a reason to give up. If everyone gives up, nobody succeeds, so someone has to keep going and keep trying.

The idea that you have to like someone or have feelings for them is a serious diversion in today's world away from healthy relationships. It's this naive pursuit of something that is inherently unstable: emotions and hormones.

I am not saying we should think like Star Trek Vulcans, but I do think that if we focused on things that were a little less "emotional" like honour, faith and loyalty, relationships might last longer. Of course, honour, faith and loyalty aren't completely "non-emotional," but they aren't completely "non-logical" either. The basic idea is to stick to your values rather than let your heart guide you, because by following your emotions, you will almost certainly stray from the path one day.

Emotions are simply too weak. Emotions without values and proper discipline is the cause of a lot of marital breakdowns IMO.

Jasin wrote on Sep 15^th, 2014 at 10:14pm:


Hahahaha, maybe blind drunk.
My cure for being lonely is owning a pet. At least they don't talk   

Freedumb wrote on Sep 15^th, 2014 at 10:45pm:


Ha! Funny 

As of last week, I officially own a pussy that I've been feeding for months now.

Do you want the 'Truth'? 

Well, after 2.5 years of trying (living in the dog-house) to get my marriage back together after stuffing it up.
It is now officially over.

Oh well.

So, FreeDumb - whaddaya doing tomorrow night alllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll
lllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll the way over there in WA ?

I'll be there at 4pm Eastern ST.
Will be wearing a nice t-shirt depicting heaps of sharks.