Baronvonrort wrote on Mar 19
th, 2012 at 10:15am:
Quote:What if her husband beats her?
Wife beating is not a crime in Islam,there is no such concept as domestic violence in Islam that is a concept that came from the west.
Allah the most merciful allows wife beating if you fear disobedience, sura 4:34 will explain womens rights in Islamhttp://quran.com/4/34Read all translations.
The beating is considered a last resort in he case of a rebellious wife, and requires leaving the marital bed beforehand. So obviously, it is not a tool to force women to have sex, because a condition for beaing the wife is to leave the marital bed.
It is a last resort, and there are many hadeeth demonstrating that Prophet Muhammed, God's peace & blessings upon him, discouraged people from beating their wives. He absoultely forbid anyone to hit the face. He also said warned that any beating must be gentle. His companions explained that if someone beat hs wife, he should only do so with a tootbrush made from a twig - which oviously would not cause any injury.
Baronvonrort wrote on Mar 19
th, 2012 at 10:15am:
Quote:And, what if she just didn't feel like doing it?
Bad luck If a man says "He does not feel like going out to work and providing for his family" do we accept this?
If a woman refuses sex to her husband then she has wronged him. Afterall, it would cost her nothing to do so.
However, there is no evidence in Islam o suggest that forcing people to have sex is permitted.
On the contrary,
O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will, and you should not treat them with harshness...
live with them honourably...
[Quran, an-Nisaa, v.19]
And among His (God's) signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find serenity in them, and
He has ordained between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.
[Quran, ar-Rum, v.31]
...
And force not your female slaves into sexual service, if they desire chastity...
[Quran an-Noor, v.33]
On many occasions he said: "I commend you to be good to women"
He also said:
‘
Treat women well. Women were created from a rib. The most crooked part of the rib is the top part. If you try to straighten it, you will break it. If you leave it, it remains crooked.
So treat women well.’ (Bukhari & Muslim)
‘The most perfect of believers in belief is one who is best of them in character.
The best of you are those who are the best to their women." (Tirmidhi)
Now let us contrast this to the Bible
Moses was furious with all the military commanders who had returned from the battle. "Why have you let all the women live?" he demanded. "...They are the ones who caused the plague to strike the LORD's people.
Now kill all the boys and all the women who have slept with a man. Only the young girls who are virgins may live; you may keep them for yourselves.
[Numbers 31:7-18]
If a man is caught in the act of raping a young woman who is not engaged, he must pay fifty pieces of silver to her father. Then
he must marry the young woman because he violated her, and
he will never be allowed to divorce her.
[Deuteronomy 22:28-29]
When a man sells his daughter as a slave, she will not be freed at the end of six years as the men are. If she does not please the man who bought her, he may allow her to be bought back again. But he is not allowed to sell her to foreigners, since he is the one who broke the contract with her. And if the slave girl's owner arranges for her to marry his son, he may no longer treat her as a slave girl, but he must treat her as his daughter. If he himself marries her and then takes another wife, he may not reduce her food or clothing or fail to sleep with her as his wife. If he fails in any of these three ways, she may leave as a free woman without making any payment. (Exodus 21:7-11
"When you go out to war against your enemies and the LORD, your God, delivers them into your hand, so that you take captives,
if you see a comely woman among the captives and become so enamored of her that you wish to have her as wife, you may take her home to your house. But before she may live there, she must shave her head and pare her nails and lay aside her captive's garb. After she has mourned her father and mother for a full month,
you may have relations with her, and you shall be her husband and she shall be your wife. However, if later on you lose your liking for her, you shall give her her freedom, if she wishes it; but you shall not sell her or enslave her,
since she was married to you under compulsion."
[Deuteronomy 21:10-14]