No one is attacking you personally, what I am giving you is good honest advice. What you dont seem to understand is the link between diet and mental health. You say you need mental focus in order to concentrate on diet. what will give you mental focus is a good diet. You have the chicken and the egg confused, listen to what I am trying to tell you, I am very experienced at counselling people, get your diet right first. Ignore the idiots on here who are telling you to go right on killing yourself. Anyway, thats the last I will tell you.  if you want to document your self destruction on here go right ahead, I wont give you any more advice. Some people cant be helped, you may be one of those. Good luck.

the trouble with fat... its sneaky  and it does so much damage to other organs...the younger you are the better to get it under control....most people are only trying to be helpful.. but in the end its whats in your head that matters   only you can change you!

rhino wrote on Sep 23^rd, 2020 at 10:52pm:


The fat-shaming does actually help. But I know that I usually like to get the last word -- unless the other person completely fluffs up and makes themselves look foolish.

I understand completely that my mental health is the main reason behind my heaviness. I restarted drinking midway through last year because of mental health issues. I probably gained 5kg between then and now. The scales in my kitchen told me that I have lost 3kg in the last 3 days. So, I will wait until next week when I am back up at the hospital for more reliable scale measurements.

I have been miserable for the last week. It is just my natural ability to endure pain for a long time that I manage to keep up a low-sugar diet. I can go sober for long periods of time. But I will not lose much weight having a no alcohol intake, if my mind is not set for a weight loss activity.

Having fish and chips meal once a week is not a "killing yourself" meal. Drinking a Coca Cola every day is more likely a self-destructive drink. I am having another fasting day today. I might even have a fasting day tomorrow and Saturday. I will eat a meal at 3pm and then again at 9pm after work. That was how I lost a heap of weight last time. In fact, I lost a heap of weight years ago this way. So, it works no matter how old I get.

I have been adding turmeric, paprika and ginger to my vegetables and boil them in. Now I have seen that it is better to add the spices after the vegetables have been cooked -- during serving. Does anyone know the best way to add the spices? Is it during the cooking or afterwards. It just seems that I might be wasting much of the spices. Seems obvious now.