Quote:although the grandmother would probably have preferred a "man"
He would've been considered a man in his time by his society, otherwise he wouldn't really have been able to marry. He most likely would've been working and supporting himself and his new wife.
Quote:Is this still being practised today where older women can marry little boys?
The economic situation in most Muslim countries is now not the best, as I'm sure you're aware, the social situation has also been severely damaged by the past century of mismanagement. Most Muslim males cannot afford to marry until they're well into their 30's, and that's probably why you see today a higher occurence of older men marrying younger girls, as opposed to in times past, when it would've been a lot more distributed, the variance in ages for males and females marrying.
Muhammad's (pbuh) first wife was also quite his senior. Something very rarely mentioned today, we only hear about his younger wife.
Quote:if so why are only Muslim males allowed to commit to underage marriages?
It probably still occurs, just not as often, most likely due to the economic situation, and the fact that most children today are schooled beyond that age, and therefore not really able to support a family.
What I'm pointing out though, is that there's no social taboo against it in Islamic culture. There is no ageism when it comes to marriage, so long as both parties are sexually mature.
Quote:As far as having a problem with a child and an adult marrying - it is obviously worse if a woman commits this abuse as it would be a rare deviation from the norm.
They are a child according to your own cultural definition. For most of the history of human society, most societies didn't consider 13 yo's to be children. Certainly not Islamic society. As I've mentioned before, when Muhammad Bin Qasim (May God have mercy on him), the distinguished Muslim General who conquered most of the Indian Sub-Continent made his greatest conquests, he was only 16 or 17 years old. Today, in your society, he'd be considered a child, but his actions show he was very much a man, and I doubt he'd have been considered a man for less than 3 years...
Also it's a known fact amongst those who study the social sciences that the "awkward years" between reaching sexual maturity and being considered an adult by society is associated with a lot of the anti-social behaviour that exists in societies who view teenagers in this way. In societies where people are considered adults when they reach sexual maturity and are given rights and responsibilities befitting of their maturity, those people in general fit into society much more smoothly. So perhaps it's the West who need to re-evaluate the way they view teenagers, not Islam.