Sprintcyclist wrote on Jul 11
th, 2008 at 1:40pm:
Acid - yes, in many ways.
Our divorce was very normal - ie, by what most people think of divorces, we were boring.
Shared care, assets split amicably, no court or legal issues.
Divorced single men are .... not as trusted as a man with a wife or girlfriend.
Other husbands are cautious, other wives feel a bit unsure.
The situation now would be MUCH more acceptable than it was decades ago.
Some peoples (esp couples) attitudes to me changed immediately I said I was getting married again.
Even though I had been with her for about 5 years.
Not trusted? How so? As in, "don't go to THAT man for financial advice because he's a divorcee". Or, "GET AWAY FROM MY KIDS YOU FREAK!" Or, "here, let me handle the BBQ, you don't seem to know what you're doing"?
Why would other husbands be caustios? Is it because they think that you'll be after their wives? And are the wives cautious because they think tat you'll make a pass at them? If so, then how is that any different when compared to a single non-divorcee?
And how can that perception change merely with marriage?
People and society can be very fickle.
There are too many stigmas within conservative society - divorce, depression, being born out of wedlock, extra marital sex etc.