aloof..

your very naughty..

well..ill bet your 'hot' on the inside.

well you said your not 'terribly handsome' ...  so dont blame me boof. 

What can I say about this Topic and the Posters?
Except

lines dont really work.

they come from a place of "try hard" ness.

women like to feel that they are with a winner.

thats the problem with the hollywood "sucking up to women " narrative.

when you suck up to a woman, when you are needy, when you treat her like she is the prize, when you treat her like she is a rare commodity and you are desperate, you MUST be putting her on a pedestal and then , by definition, you are LOWER status and a lower status male is mildly disgusting to a woman.

you need to flip this.

a small diss is actually better, especially if said with a confident and assertive vibe.

because women want to be led and all good leaders are CONFIDENT and ASSERTIVE.

so, say she is wearing a blue dress.
a guy who just says" what a beautiful dress , you are hot" is coming from that lower status frame.
she hears this 100 times a night in the club.
yawn
bye bye loser.

but if you say "that dress is a little too blue, doesnt match your hair, why not dash home and change it"

now youre a confident guy, now you have an assertive opinion, now shes curious, now she wants you to validate her, now shes chasing, now youre on the pedestal.

and when she takes you home, she feels smug "that guy wasnt really into me, but i got him to come around and i GOT him".

paradoxical thing  is the mating game 

RightSaidFred wrote on Mar 13^th, 2018 at 8:34am:



heres something you need to consider Fred.

a lot of women (and often very attractive women) dont have very high opinions of themselves.
a very attractive woman may be used to getting free drinks from men and free meals and getting her way because of her looks.
and she knows , deep down, she is being manipulative and  unfair.
and she doesnt like herself for that reason.

and when a nice guy, just a nice guy with nice manners tries to get it on with her, she can feel that this is the "damaging dynamic" that has been her problem.
so he gets told to bugger off.
in a way, this is her being kind because she knows she needs to sort herself out before she deserves a nice guy.
(if she's still being a bitch and a brat, she'll let him buy her drinks but she wont sleep with that guy).

but if a guy who is a bit of a bastard, a bit arrogant, a bit of a douche bag gets into a one on one conversation with her, she can relax because his douche bag arrogance is a good match for her bratty and bitchy behaviour.  so she feels "connected" to this guy.

thats the mistake guys make.

they think all women are loving nurturing little lambs but a lot of women are mean and nasty and they want someone who can "meet them where they are at" in their lives.

now hopefully both parties can grow.

the arrogant douche can become a superior man and the bitch can become a nurturing quality woman.

but the castrated harmless man is going nowhere in life
and the angry" man - hating "feminist is on that same journey to nowhere 

cods wrote on Mar 13^th, 2018 at 10:38am:



i suppose it would seem weird if you were someone who believed the group think on male female dynamics.
that says to just be a really nice guy, just have a nice car and a nice watch and be really nice.
meanwhile, the brazilian backpacker with 2 bucks in his wallet is doing much better .

but what has gone wrong?

why are so many women dissappointed with men, shaming men, complaining they cant find a good man?

i blame men.

it is a MANS responsibility to create a quality woman and a quality relationship.

it is a MANS responsibility to create quality daughters.

fat steve (most men) sits on the couch, passive (or passive aggressive). he ignores his daughters (and probably his sons), he only pays attention to diva behaviour , his wife (fat janeen) probably overcompensates by smothering and rewarding princess bahaviour. schools and society instil anxiety and the green movement makes kids feel like they are a cancer on the planet.

all of this is not leading to quality men or women.

some women grow up in a loving household with good discipline and strict boundaries.
but a lot (maybe most) dont.

and those young women have self esteem issues, trust issues, abandonment issues, passive aggressive issues,  and they do not fit the mould of the modern cultural hypnosis and they are going to be exploited by douche bags.

most men are NOT douche bags.
most men are frightened nerds.
and the pressure on them makes them very awkward and prone to mistakes.

everything about post modernism is making the male female dynamic (which is the very basis for mankind) more and more dysfunctional.

and no cods. i have a quality relationship with a quality woman and i work on making it .001 % better every day and when you do that for years on end , you get the benefits of compund interest  .

by the way, you DONT want "happily ever after", you want a quality women to "contend with".
thats where transformation occurs.  your job, your wife, your kids   are all just one problem after another. and if you rise to the challenge you go up and if you are like fat steve and you dont rise to the challenge and love the problems and love the adversity, you go down.