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Title: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by mothra on May 20th, 2017 at 11:08am
It’s been the buzzword of the last few years that doesn’t appear to be losing speed: mindfulness.
We’ve been told being mindful - that is, focusing solely on the present and our current situations - will heal our unhealthy relationships with food, our mental health and other people. We must always be mindful if we want to achieve true happiness, or so some people would have us believe. But achieving mindfulness isn’t easy, and if a new study is to be believed, men should just give up trying. New research by Brown University in the US suggests that women get much more from mindfulness than men. The researchers assessed a group of 41 male and 36 female students over a period of 12 weeks, during which time they all underwent a course in mindfulness. They found that whilst the women experienced a significant change in mental state, the changes for men were minimal. The reason for the difference is unclear, but the researchers have suggested that it could be because women have a higher tendency to spend time reflecting on things than men. In contrast, men tend to cast aside and ignore their concerns and worries. But because they do this, they are more likely to be focusing on the present moment already so have less to gain from practising mindfulness. “That was the surprising part,” said Dr Willoughby Britton, assistant professor of psychiatry and human behavior and of behavioral and social sciences at Brown. “I wouldn't be surprised if this is a widespread phenomenon that researchers hadn't bothered to investigate,” she added. Co-lead author Rahil Rojiani said he hopes the study will even out disparities in mental health care. “The gender gap in mental health has been inadequately targeted and often only within the standard medical arsenal of pharmacological treatment,” Rojiani said. “Our study is one of the first to explore the effects of mindfulness across gender.” The findings come despite previous research claiming mindfulness can have many benefits, as well as claims from many men that being mindful has helped them manage health problems and lead happier lives. http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/mindfulness-works-only-women-brown-university-study-suggests-a7695946.html |
Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by mothra on May 20th, 2017 at 11:14am
This explains what i have for many a year felt.
Men are better at meditation. They can focus their energy and achieve stillfullness. Women are naturally introspective. We need to work on being aware of our presence. I think this goes a tremendous way into explaining male dominated religious practices, and how many women feel excluded... And feminist dominated social services, and how many men feel excluded. |
Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by freediver on May 20th, 2017 at 11:14am
Is this just another word for focusing on what you are doing? It appears to be saying that mindfulness doesn't work for men because they are already mindful. It's pretty much a stereotype of the difference between men and women.
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Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by mothra on May 20th, 2017 at 11:19am freediver wrote on May 20th, 2017 at 11:14am:
No. It is far more complex than just focusing on what you are doing. |
Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by Ye Grappler on May 20th, 2017 at 11:19am
You're way too full of theory - as Sir Lawrence Olivier once said to Dustin Hoffman when he was working so hard on the method acting approach to a scene - "Why don't you simply try acting, old boy?"
Why don't you simply try a relationship of equals, old girl? It must be as dreary as hell spending all day listening to this convoluted and often artificially created theory about life, relationships and the universe... does anyone seriously want to work that hard? I suppose, like all 'academic' learning, it makes you feel superior in discussion to trot out all these approved titles and definitions for discussion points and then frown on the great unwashed who haven't studied at the feet of the Delphic gurus of social theory - but frankly, my dear, most people don't give a damn, and are sick and tired of 'experts' in essentially nothing dictating the way their world is to run. |
Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by mothra on May 20th, 2017 at 11:25am Grappler Truth Teller Feller wrote on May 20th, 2017 at 11:19am:
I seek to understand. Men and women are different. You sound like a second wave feminist. I've met your sort before. People often find themselves needing help. Do you not think it beneficial that we offer them the best help available? |
Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by freediver on May 20th, 2017 at 11:32am
If the answer to women's problems is to be more like men, perhaps you have the wrong problem. You might help them solve differential equations, but will they find a good husband?
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Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by mothra on May 20th, 2017 at 11:38am freediver wrote on May 20th, 2017 at 11:32am:
What an interesting perspective. You didn't lower yourself to consider that the answer to men's problems is to be more like women? Of course not. You're just nor wired that way,are you. May i suggest meditation? In the interim, you're quite wrong. But don't let that stop you. It never has before. |
Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by freediver on May 20th, 2017 at 11:40am
Should I eat more chicken?
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Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by mothra on May 20th, 2017 at 11:45am freediver wrote on May 20th, 2017 at 11:40am:
You find the modern approach to psychological therapy and how it is not serving men amusing? Do you think because it is not relevant to you it's not relevant to any of your users? Do you find a person seeking help funny? |
Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by Ye Grappler on May 20th, 2017 at 11:54am mothra wrote on May 20th, 2017 at 11:25am:
Now there you go again - everyone must have a label attached and be slotted into a nice little box - never happen...that's one of the traps of over-academising everything... people don't fit into neat little boxes to be handled at whim by the gurus and their acolytes... Oh - the absolute horror of being labeled a 'feminist' of any kind... I am The World's Greatest Anti-Feminist - I espouse quality for all, not preferential treatment for some... That's the same as some theorist trying to label me a Trotsykite or something, even a National Socialist, for wanting to enhance this nation and its people first and foremost while protecting proper civil and legal rights. As for 'psychologists' - do you know the difference between the staff and the inmates in an asylum? One set has the keys to the doors.... |
Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by mothra on May 20th, 2017 at 12:03pm
Saying you sound like a second wave feminist is ascribing you a box?
Calm the bugger down, snowflake. I merely meant that you see no inherent difference between the sexes. A Marxist ideology that is well outdated. I've had many an exchange with second wave feminists. They're wrong. So are you. Science and observation has out stepped you. You now have two choices. Adapt or remain an anachronism. Your choice. |
Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by Gordon on May 20th, 2017 at 1:34pm
Hi Mothra, do you practice mediation yourself? If you do I have some advice.
Your unhealthy and toxic lifestyle is undermining all of the possible benefits of the meditation. A quick scan of the boards shows you've been posting since early yesterday afternoon and into the wee hours of the night then starting up again very early this morning. For what, to hand someone their arse? To get a little internet win? That doesn't sound very mindful to me. In contrast, here's how yours truly has spent the last 24 hours or so. 330pm Picked up 1stborn from school and straight to the beach for a surf until after dark. I scored a lovely big floaty 9' mal during the week and we had a blast on it. (I bought it from Japanese backpacker so I'm naming it Yamoto). After 8 hours of sleep (minus 20 mins to do a nappy and make a bottle) woke at 645, made breakfast for 3, cut the oranges then out the door to coach a netball team. (nice 20-17 win girls) After netball, I went for a 5km run then home for a quick core strength workout. In between this I also cooked dinner, did a load of washing and baked some brownies for 1st born to take to a party and read to her for 30 mins before bed. You need to take some time away from the virtual world and get out into real world. A good brisk walk on the beach or esplanade perhaps? If you need a coach to get your life back on track, I'd be more than willing to help, it's pretty obvious you need it. All the best Gordy. |
Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by Ye Grappler on May 20th, 2017 at 1:45pm mothra wrote on May 20th, 2017 at 12:03pm:
1. You are allocating to me a box by defining my position as anything at all. 2. Ad hominem does your argument no good. 3. 'Marxist' - again with the little labeled box 4. What 'science' was that? Observation? I observe differently, and I've never said men and women were the same - I've always said all individuals are different, and that men and women are different - you miss that? You are obfuscating over the difference between suggesting forming a viable relationship between the two as equals and some alleged statement that they are the same. 5. I have no such limited choice - I can be whatever I want, and neither of those labels fit me, and I have zero obligation to accept that there is even any need for labeling into some category to suit something with which I disagree and in which I have little to no interest. I've argued with many a social science based person - they are easy meat, because they always function from pre-conceived positions without reference to proof and truth, and always seek to pursue the 'official' line. You are still continuing in this over-academised approach to real life... never happen. Why not simply try real life, old girl? |
Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by mothra on May 20th, 2017 at 1:55pm
Gordy, you're absolutely the last person to talk to me about online time.
Don't you have a newborn? Yet you are always here. Like always. First thing in the morning until late at night. All day, every day. So i was online yesterday at work. You were here. I logged back on after the family went to bed and i couldn't sleep. You were here. The family went to the markets this morning (i was excused because i didn't sleep well) and then off to the movies. Throughout it all, you've been here. When i had newborns, nothing could keep me from them. I was all over their little preciousness like white on rice. Didn't want to miss a moment. But you'te online, yes? It must be more important to you. Meanwhile you're evidencing to your daghter that the woman does all the work. Go you. |
Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by Gordon on May 20th, 2017 at 2:04pm mothra wrote on May 20th, 2017 at 1:55pm:
Click click click ;) Did you miss the bit about ME cooking dinner, making brownies, doing a load of washing, a 2am nappy and bottle and breakfast? Are you going to hand anyone their arse today? Our nanny is popping over in an hour, Mrs G and I are off for a bit of alone time, stroll on the beach then a bite to eat. Enjoy your arvo, perhaps a brisk walk on the esplanade will make you feel better. |
Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by mothra on May 20th, 2017 at 2:09pm
Always. Online.
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Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by freediver on May 20th, 2017 at 2:16pm mothra wrote on May 20th, 2017 at 11:45am:
Your mind is wandering mothra. Have you forgotten to do something? |
Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by Gordon on May 20th, 2017 at 2:21pm mothra wrote on May 20th, 2017 at 2:09pm:
Aside from my business I trade equities so I hit the computer early in the morning to see what's happened overnight in the USA and have a think about my positions for the day, I also clear my emails, and sometimes a quick morning post here. I have 3 desktop computers. One that never goes online (airgapped) one that I use for trading and banking only and one that I use for internet and email which stays on 24/7, so I'm probably always logged in here. Right now, I'm bashing out a few invoices which bores me to tears. This is my 3rd post of the day, you? ;D The difference is, although I'm logged in, I'm not posting through the night, into the witching hour and up early, as you are time and time and time again....getting little wins, handing people their arse. Yesterday 1stborn and I rode Yamato 2up, while you were probably here, handing someone their arse. |
Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by mothra on May 20th, 2017 at 2:26pm freediver wrote on May 20th, 2017 at 2:16pm:
Nope. Crystal clear. Would you like to take this opportunity to belittle anyone on the forum who may be seeking psychological help? The floor is yours. Don't mind Gordy. He's a fixture. |
Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by Gordon on May 20th, 2017 at 2:48pm mothra wrote on May 20th, 2017 at 2:26pm:
Except for that fact that you've been here solidly since yesterday arvo, click click click, handing people their arses :) Feel good? Here's my 24hrs in pictorial form. Arvo surf at Bondi Coaching a netball team and handing the the opposition their arses (while you were here click click clicking, handing people their arses) 5km run around Centennial Pk, stopped to snap the lovely autumn colour. |
Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by mothra on May 20th, 2017 at 2:53pm
Nope. Since this morning.
Are you obsessing about the online time of anonymous people? When you have a newborn to enjoy? Last thing on my mind when i had a newborn was computers... let alone the online activity of other people. Good thing you've got your wife in line, hey Gordy. |
Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by Gordon on May 20th, 2017 at 3:00pm mothra wrote on May 20th, 2017 at 2:53pm:
How I manage my family is my business. Do you think it's ethical for you to use my family as a point of argument against me? Isn't it funny, when I ping you, Ionly ping you, but you constantly bring my family into it. Always. I put you in exactly the same category as Greg who sinks to unimaginably disgusting depths to make a point just to win an argument. All to hand someone their arse. Good on you. You Mothra, are a foul individual. |
Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by mothra on May 20th, 2017 at 3:09pm
Did i strike a nerve?
I don't believe for a second that you have a newborn. No-one with a newborn would pull the hours you do on here. Not unless they were a narcissist who had dutifully trained their wife. I've been through it. Twice. And my children have years on them but i still don't pull the online hours you do. I think you're either full of crap or deserving of a bollocking. My money is on the former. |
Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by Gordon on May 20th, 2017 at 3:16pm mothra wrote on May 20th, 2017 at 3:09pm:
Mrs G and I are off to the beach, back later, hope you hand some people their arses while we're having a swim. |
Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by Sprintcyclist on May 20th, 2017 at 10:56pm Gordon wrote on May 20th, 2017 at 3:00pm:
yep |
Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by mothra on May 20th, 2017 at 10:59pm Sprintcyclist wrote on May 20th, 2017 at 10:56pm:
Oh no! Sprint the sexist, racist "good Christians who gets off on the death of vulnerable people doesn't like me! What will i do? |
Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by Ye Grappler on May 20th, 2017 at 11:04pm
What's wrong with dutifully training your wife to follow her natural instincts and duty to posterity? If she was in such a parlous state re nurturing and socialisation of the infant that she needed remedial classes - what more can I say about the real plight of women these days and their lack of connection with their inner woman?
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Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by mothra on May 20th, 2017 at 11:06pm
Dutifully training your wife?
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Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by Ye Grappler on May 20th, 2017 at 11:07pm mothra wrote on May 20th, 2017 at 11:06pm:
Remedial classes... |
Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by mothra on May 20th, 2017 at 11:07pm
Jesus Christ.
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Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by Ye Grappler on May 21st, 2017 at 1:15am mothra wrote on May 20th, 2017 at 11:07pm:
Ah - I see you've been reading my latest short story..... |
Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by Sprintcyclist on May 21st, 2017 at 1:42am freediver wrote on May 20th, 2017 at 11:14am:
yeah, men focus much better on a single job. It's much more productive and rewarding than running around like a chook with it's head cut off trying to do EVERYTHING all at once. this multitasking rubbish makes people look really busy and important, it's unproductive and error prone. |
Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by Setanta on May 21st, 2017 at 2:00am
;D
I guess that why I stick around. |
Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by freediver on May 21st, 2017 at 8:02am
Pole dancing is good for mindfulness. You don't get distracted when you are upside down with your legs spread.
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Title: Re: "Mindfulness" only works for women Post by Fireball on May 21st, 2017 at 8:15am freediver wrote on May 21st, 2017 at 8:02am:
The picture you paint of Mothra 'pole dancing' is causing my breakfast to reappear on the plate...... ;D |
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