Wondering what causes the most conflict in hetero relationships, and if the same things are the main causes of conflict in gay relationships. The two issues usually widely acknowledged are sex and money, but I think there are more, and there may not be legitimate generalisations as every individual and relationship is unique.

who gets to hold the remote, and who is in charge of the car stereo

cautious connie wrote on Jun 24^th, 2007 at 5:03pm:

Wondering what causes the most conflict in hetero relationships, and if the same things are the main causes of conflict in gay relationships. The two issues usually widely acknowledged are sex and money, but I think there are more, and there may not be legitimate generalisations as every individual and relationship is unique.

I think in hetero" the remote" one is a biggie and yes as you say sex and money..Friends are another sometimes we hate our partners friends.

Id imagine the same for many gay couples.Most gay couples dont have kids so thats a conlict area  gays dont have .etc.

The family car also....

in-laws....

credit card debt

ex boy and girlfriends

holiday destinations

freediver wrote on Jun 24^th, 2007 at 5:06pm:

who gets to hold the remote, and who is in charge of the car stereo

Is that a joke or do you just know people who are very fond of their own taste in music and TV?

oceanz wrote on Jun 24^th, 2007 at 7:01pm:

ex boy and girlfriends

I haven't experienced that one. But I guess if they started popping up again that woudl cause a lot of conflict. So do you mean that or do you mean talking about them?

freediver wrote on Jun 24^th, 2007 at 6:29pm:

in-laws....

Yes, can be a dreadful cause of conflict.

Who wears the pants in the house.

If she does not anticipate and cater fully to my every whim .
It's trouble

;D I was going to bring up the problem of not having the laundry done in a timely fashion....

if we forget to pay the electric bill

MENSTRUATION :o

freediver - yep, that's a baddie.  Prince Charles used to like to have his shoelaces ironed :-)
As kooky as he is, I admired that.


I'm sure we have all seen this before :

1/Have dinner ready:  Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal – on time.  This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs.  Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.

2/Prepare yourself:  Take 15 minutes to rest so that you’ll be refreshed when he arrives.  Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking.  He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.  Be a little gay and a little more interesting.  His boring day may need a lift.

3/Clear away the clutter:  Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up school books, toys, paper, etc.  Then run a dust cloth over the tables.  Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too.

4/Prepare the children:  Take a few minutes to wash the children’s hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair, and if necessary, change their clothes.  They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.

5/Minimize all noise:  At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, dishwasher, or vacuum.  Try to encourage children to be quiet.  Be happy to see him, greet him with a smile and be glad to see him.

6/Some don’ts:  Don’t greet him with problems or complaints.  Don’t complain if he’s late for dinner.  Count this minor compared with what he might have gone through that day.  Make him comfortable.  Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom.  Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.  Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes.  Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice.  Allow him to relax and unwind.

7/Listen to him:  You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time.  Let him talk first.

8/Make the evening his:  Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment.  Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and relax.

9/The goal:  Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.


Always nice to be reminded of the basics though.
Now,  do we have a vote on what sort of a wife that would be ? Out of 5?
hehehehhehehehehe

That was so funny Sprintcyclist - it reminds me of the propaganda used in the 40's and 50's (it probably is) in those old advertisements where it was the woman's job to make sure her man was happy.

What a boring life that would have been for the women back then.  No wonder all their children grew up to begin a new sexually promiscuous, drug taking and anti establishment era.  Well the females did anyway - it sounds as though some males clung onto the ideals their fathers demanded or wanted.  

No wonder so many men are frustrated and disillusioned with the opposite sex today.

mantra wrote on Jun 25^th, 2007 at 9:16pm:

That was so funny Sprintcyclist - it reminds me of the propaganda used in the 40's and 50's (it probably is) in those old advertisements where it was the woman's job to make sure her man was happy. What a boring life that would have been for the women back then.  No wonder all their children grew up to begin a new sexually promiscuous, drug taking and anti establishment era.  Well the females did anyway - it sounds as though some males clung onto the ideals their fathers demanded or wanted.   No wonder so many men are frustrated and disillusioned with the opposite sex today.

mantra..you took the words right our of my mouth. ;D

wrote on Jun 25^th, 2007 at 6:56pm:

MENSTRUATION :o

BIRTH

freediver wrote on Jun 25^th, 2007 at 10:47am:

;D I was going to bring up the problem of not having the laundry done in a timely fashion....

how about the man does his own laundry in a timely fashion and then gives the girl a foot massage.

oceanz wrote on Jun 25^th, 2007 at 9:27pm:

wrote on Jun 25th, 2007 at 6:56pm: MENSTRUATION :o BIRTH

Yeah but we dont feel it ;D

Well wouldnt I just love to change that around..then you lot would have something to complain about.

;D ah so happy to be a man 8-)

yep. foot massages for the lady should go into marriage vows.