I was asked by a poster yesterday what constitues a good relationship?

Well as Im not an expert on relationships I thought I would throw the question open for all to give theyre opinions.

A couple of ideas I have.

1. Understanding.

2. Flexibiltiy.

3. Sexual compatibility-essential.


thoughts anyone?

Is it essential to have common goals?

This is a little confusing - I mean yes we should want roughly the same things-house and kids are 2 that need a common agreement-

But I think because we are married we should not lose all of our personal freedom. That is essential. Otherwise we become stifled and stressed ----- after a while health problems can set in due to suppression of resentments etc.

Relationships are great to dream about for those who are young and ideological, but after many years the rot sets in.

Most of the dreams get nipped in the bud somewhere along the way, and as you get older you look for something different.

If I had to name any quality that I would look for in a partner, it would be a comfortable companionship and acceptance.  As we get older, all the other fantasies we have aspired to are too difficult and unrealistic to achieve long term.

wrote on Apr 26^th, 2007 at 4:03pm:

I was asked by a poster yesterday what constitues a good relationship? Well as Im not an expert on relationships I thought I would throw the question open for all to give theyre opinions. A couple of ideas I have. 1. Understanding. 2. Flexibiltiy. 3. Sexual compatibility-essential. thoughts anyone?

I  have a relationship with my doctor and I have never had an urge to bugger him.   So I guess we could say we are not sexually compatible - for which I am grateful.

Is your definition restricted to love only or the relationship you have with your mates too?

Someone who laughs a lot is important for me.

Except when they see me naked, that is.
Then they are meant to swoon or something  ;)

wrote on Apr 26^th, 2007 at 5:43pm:

Relationships are great to dream about for those who are young and ideological, but after many years the rot sets in. As we get older, all the other fantasies we have aspired to are too difficult and unrealistic to achieve long term.   Bitter much? Oversupply of these? http://static.flickr.com/78/155733289_44299089e6.jpg you sound familiar--the sarcasm gives it away.

scaly, you sound familiar-sarcasm gives it away.

deepthought wrote on Apr 26^th, 2007 at 6:07pm:

wrote on Apr 26th, 2007 at 4:03pm: I was asked by a poster yesterday what constitues a good relationship? Well as Im not an expert on relationships I thought I would throw the question open for all to give theyre opinions. A couple of ideas I have. 1. Understanding. 2. Flexibiltiy. 3. Sexual compatibility-essential. thoughts anyone? I  have a relationship with my doctor and I have never had an urge to bugger him.   So I guess we could say we are not sexually compatible - for which I am grateful. Is your definition restricted to love only or the relationship you have with your mates too?

deepy,

Can be either- if you want to liase sexually with your mates-OK- he,s your mate. ;)

All good relationships need a cute hip pet.!!!


:)

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Sorry deepy,

i accidentally deleted your post-

but i do remember your question.


"If I pork my mate wont that be cheating on my girlfriend?"
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well number one


1. Are you sure your gf is female. Hope you checked :)



2. It is possible to have an open relationship- is your gf understanding- yes-no?



3. Im sure she loves you for who you are-especially if you love golf bro-Im sure you aint no broke 'black person'? or you would nt be playing golf.


No offence if yo a 'black person'-im quoting from a song title.

Sprintcyclist wrote on Apr 26^th, 2007 at 9:59pm:

Someone who laughs a lot is important for me. Except when they see me naked, that is. Then they are meant to swoon or something  ;)

or something--mmmm?

As long as they laugh Sprint as long as she laughs. Cos when she stops laughing you know   its time.

Interesting picture and comments - Scaly.  Obviously you are trying to say something here, but are having difficulty articulating it.

Let's hear your version on what you think a relationship constitutes - possibly you have an expert opinion from your "real life" experiences.

I would be very interested to hear your views.  

yes scaly-

please let us know how you feel on this subject?

mantra wrote on Apr 27^th, 2007 at 1:30pm:

Interesting picture and comments - Scaly.  Obviously you are trying to say something here, but are having difficulty articulating it. Let's hear your version on what you think a relationship constitutes - possibly you have an expert opinion from your "real life" experiences. I would be very interested to hear your views.

Obviously I am trying to say you may be slightly bitter, possibly from a failed relationship. My articulation is fine. Maybe your comprehension needs a little work?  :P

Charming response Scaly - is that the best gesture you can make?  Oh I forgot - it is.

Oceans and I asked you a question which you haven't answered so it appears you have no experience in that area.

In regard to being slightly bitter - aren't most of us who have been in and out of relationships - or should we all adopt the starry, wide eyed ideology of a teenager?

Quote:

Perhaps just lose the vitriol? If I could pick it up in a post on the Internet, imagine the vibes you send out to those around you?

Another inaccurate interpretation, but believe what you want.  Obviously you are here to create bad feelings and have a go at me - so do your best Mel.  


hang in there mantra..I have it under control.

Quote:

My dripping sarcasm isn't reserved solely for you, otherwise Oceans_blue might get jealous.

Thanks Scaly - that's very generous of you - Oceans_blue will be pleased with that.  

I got the delete thing under control now Im pleased to say Scaly.


It better be anyway.

wrote on Apr 27^th, 2007 at 6:16pm:

I got the delete thing under control now Im pleased to say Scaly. It better be anyway.

I'll say you have, you deleted my very witty post oceans.    I'm not having any luck with my mirth mate.     :'(

deepthought wrote on Apr 27^th, 2007 at 7:23pm:

wrote on Apr 27th, 2007 at 6:16pm: I got the delete thing under control now Im pleased to say Scaly. It better be anyway. I'll say you have, you deleted my very witty post oceans.    I'm not having any luck with my mirth mate.     :'(

No deepy,

check over the page-- I did delete it and then I corrected myself and answered from memory.

take a look. :P

well deepy,

I have to fine tune my editing skills. Im not picking on you really Im not.

:'(


Oceans!!!


You just deleted my post saying I was only kidding!!!!


You are picking on me.    :o

NO,

Im not-truly- I just sent you an email trying to fill you in.

Really Im not picking on you.

What can I do to make you believe me .?

Ok I wont delete another post?

This delete button has got it in for me I swear.

I actually answered your post and then i tried to delete mine and start again and for some reason took yours with it.

I just wont go near the delete button in relation to your posts.OK? :)

Yes I know , you wont believe me now :'(

Test.